My son goes to a church based youth club\summer camp. He has been going for two years without any issues with theft. But last week he had his entire deck of the higher value Yu Gi Oh cards nicked from his bag.
My first instinct was to make him leave anything thievable at home, but as he pointed out these collections (and the Pokemon games on the DSi that they play collaboratively) are the most fun when part of group play. If he leaves them at home he'll be left out of playing games that he loves. So I let him take his stuff in with him despite the previous theft and my misgivings.
Today 15 euros (that was to charge up his account at the snack bar, it wasn't open when he arrived), the Yu Gi Oh cards his friends had donated to help him start to build his collection back up again and a Pokemon DSi game (the white game, which is his fave game that he only just got after ages of saving up) all got swiped despite him going to some lengths to hide them in his lunch box, wrapped out in his towel\change of clothes etc.
He doesn't cry easily, but he has been in buckets over this.
The priests can't install lockers, they are really expensive and the budget is limited, and it is impossible to police the bags of over 300 kids who are in and out the bag room getting stuff out of them all day, so I don't really see a practical solution to the theft problem.
This evening I've asked him to leave all valuables at home from now on and accept that the card and DSi games are something he plays with his mates when they come over or he goes to their houses, even if that means a couple of hours a day he has to watch his mates play rather than join in.
He thinks this is very unfair and feels that he is losing out twice over, which is adding to his upset. I do understand how he feels, but even if I put a lock on his bag the reality is that he will probably just end up with the whole bag disappearing instead of stuff being selected from within it.
I suppose we could say, OK you can take the stuff you are prepared to lose on the basis that we are not replacing anything else.
But rightly or wrongly, that makes me feel really mean.
So AIBU to insist he leaves his valuable stuff at home ? Or can the collective wisdom of MNetters point me to a better solution that doesn't make him so unhappy.
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AIBU Me V My nearly 11 yo son re. petty theft.
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fastweb · 29/06/2011 20:06
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