Bit long, sorry, but if I don't get some perspective on this I'm going to go mad.
Thursday - me, DS(4) and DP go out for the day with my mum and some relatives. Having a bit of a bad day, DS being a bit hyper, we try to calm DS down. Ends up in my mum saying to me when DP goes to toilet that we are too controlling with DS (words to that effect anyway). I text my mum later saying I was hurt by the comment, thinking she would respond with something along the lines of "didn't mean to offend, just thought you could have done X instead of X" etc.
She instead calls me- DS is not being allowed to live his life, what we are doing is abuse. Stunned silence from my end.
I'm heartbroken, my mums opinion is sacred to me and I didn't realise she thought I was doing such a terrible job. Figure she will calm down, probably upset when DS started crying when we took him outside to calm down - I get upset when he cries too.
Text the next day - my dad has been very nasty to her, she's asked him to leave, she's not putting up with this etc (totally unrelated to the incident with me by the way). Eager to please her, I'm there for her to rant to, take her phone call. We manage to get on to the subject about what she said to me again (relief floods me, she's going to say the abuse comment was clearly out of order). I try to explain if we are harsh on DS its because of the way he has been behaving lately and we don't know what else to do but tell him to calm down and give him time outs. This is met with "he doesn't get enough attention from you" (based on the fact I had told her DP had tried to watch a tv programme whilst DS was entertaining himself) "you shouldn't have any tv on but DS's".
By yesterday, I thought she had got over it. We were talking like civilised adults again, DP still upset that she had not issued an apology. I sent a text this morning basically saying "Please respond to DP's text, he's really upset over what was said". I get back:
"If its a sorry he wants then no. I'm in no mood to make other people feel better when I'm feeling bad and I've got to get on with it."
I'm gutted. I don't want to talk to her again until she stops being so bloody stubborn, but I'm so desperate for her approval all the time I keep thinking maybe DP should just let it go and play happy families. Another part is so outraged I want to call social services and ask them if they think she is right. I'm not used to going against what she says.
AIBU to want her to say sorry for acusing us of abuse?
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to need an apology for the way I have treated?
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MadYoungCatLady · 29/06/2011 18:47
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