Can anyone offer me any advise pls? I have been married for 24 hrs but have been unhappy for many of those years. I have 3 sons 2 at Uni 1 at school - we own a house with my elderly mother she owns the larger share. We can't sell the house until my mother dies. We agreed after much deliberation about 2 years ago that we should separate but then my husband lost his job and although he now earns a small amount of money on a self employed basis, he simply can not afford to leave. I am also self employed but am now the main earner. I work many hours and am knackered and emotionally drained - beIng forced to live with someone I don't love and frankly can't stand being around. I went to the CAB to ask if wee were eligible for any benefits to help and they said I earn too much - I don't earn a fortune about 25 k net p/a but we have a mortgage and 2 boys at Uni and all the normal bills that go with a family & house.
He doesn't really want to leave so I am left in this limbo situation - there is no one else involved but I feel like my life is passing me by and I can't move on while he is still here. He refuses to tell our children or families although my close friends know. I am now getting pretty depressed about the whole situation but just feel totally trapped. I have considered leaving but the house is my family home and I help care for my mother - and my office is at home as well.
We sleep separately and lead separate lives but he just won't make it official and I can't see how he will ever be able to afford to go!
I have always said I want us to remain friends for the sake of the children if nothing else, but this enforced situation is making it very hard and I am now resenting him more each day. Suggestions most welcome please.
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Ladylicklid · 28/06/2011 23:53
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