Just wondered what others thought.....DD aged almost 5 went to dance at a theatre today with her ballet class...I was so proud but slightly taken aback at how emotional I felt seeing my girl on stage dancing....anyway her dance was near the beginning and we were allowed to go and collect the preschool girls after their dance so they could watch the rest of the performance.....nice to do if they have never been to a theatre before and logical since they were then not on again until the finale almost 2 hours later.
Anyway two of the other mums sat a row behind and watched the whole performance leaving their girls in the care of a chaperone backstage until it all finished. One of these mums works full time and is away a lot, a single parent. I know her DD misses her loads and always seems understandably to want to be with her when her mum is at home. This mum I also know seems to want to leave her DD at any available opportunity e.g. parties when usual for parent to stay, gets other mums to take her for the weekend/preschool trips etc. Slightly unfair on the poor child?
I have 5yr old ballet dancing DDs. In that situation, I would expect them to want to stay backstage with their ballet chums and soak up the excitement of it all - I certainly would have done at that age. Anyway, my girls have been to the theatre a number of times - you seem to imply that this was an ideal opportunity to introduce a child to the concept of watching a performance and are therefore suggesting that this dreadful other mother was denying her DD the chance to get her first go at being in an audience. For all you know, they're off to see shows all the time.
One of the things I like least about my girls' ballet school is the smug mummies who glare at my friend and I because we dare to go off for a coffee whilst the class is on, rather than sitting in the changing room for 40 minutes to wait.
My DDs could have been in a show this weekend (or next - not entirely sure) but it was past their bedtime on a Sunday evening, so I'm not letting them be in it at all - I dread to think what you'll make of that OP.
Thankfully at our dance school all the mums left their children until the interval. Means the dancers on stage aren't being disrupted during their dances and their parents don't get miffed off with the parents who must collect their precious performer and always sit in the middle of bloody rows and then have make so much noise coming back in.
We don't get a choice at dd's dance show. Drop off at say, 4pm for last rehearsal, show at 5.30, collect afterwards. The staff are putting on a show, they don't have lots of time to pander to individual parents....
Intrigued by the 'sheltered life ' comment. Is it because you don't know any 'whispers' SINGLE MOTHERS, or even worse -'working mothers'. Presumably the other one wasn't a single, working mother so she wasn't quite so evil ?
DD was in a show today and the little ones stayed for the duration. I imagine there was quite enough to do backstage without doing hand-overs and worrying about the safety of the children. Easier to corral them all.
I'd have been mightily pissed off with constant interruptions if I had been the parent of one of the older ones who had difficult solo songs too. I had to go out to wee just before Rizzo's song in Grease, was ten seconds but I wasn't going to open that door and distract the girl mid-song even though a few other people didn't care