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DD's dance performance at theatre

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TheCleaningQueen Sun 26-Jun-11 21:32:35

Just wondered what others thought.....DD aged almost 5 went to dance at a theatre today with her ballet class...I was so proud but slightly taken aback at how emotional I felt seeing my girl on stage dancing....anyway her dance was near the beginning and we were allowed to go and collect the preschool girls after their dance so they could watch the rest of the performance.....nice to do if they have never been to a theatre before and logical since they were then not on again until the finale almost 2 hours later.

Anyway two of the other mums sat a row behind and watched the whole performance leaving their girls in the care of a chaperone backstage until it all finished. One of these mums works full time and is away a lot, a single parent. I know her DD misses her loads and always seems understandably to want to be with her when her mum is at home. This mum I also know seems to want to leave her DD at any available opportunity e.g. parties when usual for parent to stay, gets other mums to take her for the weekend/preschool trips etc. Slightly unfair on the poor child?

HidinginaHardHat Sun 26-Jun-11 21:34:06

Judgemental much?

WriterofDreams Sun 26-Jun-11 21:36:45

Mind your own business.

xstitch Sun 26-Jun-11 21:37:09

At the dance school my dd goes to the parents are only allowed back stage for the pre-schoolers.

TheSecondComing Sun 26-Jun-11 21:37:52

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pinkdelight Sun 26-Jun-11 21:38:05

Very judgmental. She knows her child. Perhaps she'd get bored sitting watching for so long and would be better off with chaperone. It's not unfair. It's none of your business. Or mine, for that matter

lockets Sun 26-Jun-11 21:44:39

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KangarooCaught Sun 26-Jun-11 21:46:01

So many reasons why they might not have done, including perhaps not knowing that they could collect their child or when they would be required to go on again. Not all parents know this stuff.

EvilTwins Sun 26-Jun-11 21:46:34

I have 5yr old ballet dancing DDs. In that situation, I would expect them to want to stay backstage with their ballet chums and soak up the excitement of it all - I certainly would have done at that age. Anyway, my girls have been to the theatre a number of times - you seem to imply that this was an ideal opportunity to introduce a child to the concept of watching a performance and are therefore suggesting that this dreadful other mother was denying her DD the chance to get her first go at being in an audience. For all you know, they're off to see shows all the time.

One of the things I like least about my girls' ballet school is the smug mummies who glare at my friend and I because we dare to go off for a coffee whilst the class is on, rather than sitting in the changing room for 40 minutes to wait.

My DDs could have been in a show this weekend (or next - not entirely sure) but it was past their bedtime on a Sunday evening, so I'm not letting them be in it at all - I dread to think what you'll make of that OP.

elphabadefiesgravity Sun 26-Jun-11 21:51:51

As a chaperone and a mum of a dancing dd it is actually far easier to have the children stay backstage until the end of the show or the interval for the babies (3-4 year olds).

I arranged for dd to be collected at the interval of her last dance show (as I was chaperoning I was there until the end) and she begged ot be allowed to stay each night.

Collecting younger children early is a concession to those whose parents feel that are too young to stay backstage. It is entirely normal fpr parents not to colect them.

You are being judgmental.

cory Sun 26-Jun-11 21:55:06

agree with others; my dd would have wanted to stay backstage at that age

and not every nearly-5-yo has never been to a theatre before: mine certainly had and thought backstage was far more exciting than being in the audience

Sassybeast Sun 26-Jun-11 21:55:08

Stone the bitch.

worraliberty Sun 26-Jun-11 21:56:28

Bloody hell...she knows her own child!

soverylucky Sun 26-Jun-11 21:57:53

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manicinsomniac Sun 26-Jun-11 22:03:31

I would never collect my girls from backstage in the middle of a show.

Being backstage is part of the experience of theatre.

catsareevil Sun 26-Jun-11 22:04:35

You are being judgemental. The backstage bit is fun. I know that my DDs, given the choice, would prefer to be backstage with their mates rather than sitting with their tragically uncool parents.

Groovee Sun 26-Jun-11 22:05:25


Thankfully at our dance school all the mums left their children until the interval. Means the dancers on stage aren't being disrupted during their dances and their parents don't get miffed off with the parents who must collect their precious performer and always sit in the middle of bloody rows and then have make so much noise coming back in.

TheCleaningQueen Sun 26-Jun-11 22:07:06

Thanks for your comments. I was slightly taken aback at the harshness of some of them but appreciate your honesty. Makes me realise how sheltered a life we lead!

Hebrewlass Sun 26-Jun-11 22:14:12

DD is 5 yrs old. I nip out for coffee too in lessons and parents are not allowed back stage in shows. Hooray for independent mothers and daughters.

EvilTwins Sun 26-Jun-11 22:16:04

grin Hebrewlass

I'm in the minority at DD's dance school blush [don't care though emoticon]

Portofino Sun 26-Jun-11 22:17:36

We don't get a choice at dd's dance show. Drop off at say, 4pm for last rehearsal, show at 5.30, collect afterwards. The staff are putting on a show, they don't have lots of time to pander to individual parents....

Sassybeast Sun 26-Jun-11 22:19:14

Intrigued by the 'sheltered life ' comment. Is it because you don't know any 'whispers' SINGLE MOTHERS, or even worse -'working mothers'. Presumably the other one wasn't a single, working mother so she wasn't quite so evil ? wink

magicmummy1 Sun 26-Jun-11 22:42:50

Sorry, but you sound like a small-minded judgemental gossip. WTF does it have to do with you anyway?

BeerTricksPotter Sun 26-Jun-11 22:49:30

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ZXEightyMum Sun 26-Jun-11 22:57:14

DD was in a show today and the little ones stayed for the duration. I imagine there was quite enough to do backstage without doing hand-overs and worrying about the safety of the children. Easier to corral them all.

I'd have been mightily pissed off with constant interruptions if I had been the parent of one of the older ones who had difficult solo songs too. I had to go out to wee just before Rizzo's song in Grease, was ten seconds but I wasn't going to open that door and distract the girl mid-song even though a few other people didn't care hmm

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