I am new to mumsnet, but recently moved my three children from truly dreadful local school (ended up complaining at highest level in area)to another fab local school. It was very stressful, and required incredible tenacity with LEA re waiting lists etc. In fact nearly made me ill (not sleeping / eating / palpitations etc) but it was the BEST thing I have ever done. For three months had to double drop and pick up with 3 year old in tow! 5 minute window for 15 minute walk between schools. Still worth it. Pick your ideal school from your options. Accept your job, put your dd's name on the waiting list if no spaces. Children do leave and she may have a place in September (summer hol v. popular for moving house!). If not, hedge your bets by accepting offer in meantime at most practical option - which sounds like flexi school. If another place comes up, you can always bow out gracefully. My kids made friends immediately, and haven't looked back. Don't walk away from good job opp. unless you want to. And good luck.
Children need to go to school to learn social skills, to learn how to make friends and play, they do not get that from home ed, and I feel it is mean to not allow them to grow closely with other children.
Do anything that will allow her a normal school life.
Plenty of people home ed very successfully and produce well rounded, sociable, confident and able young adults at the end of it - to say that DD won't get what she needs from HE is bull. Sorry, but it is - just go to the HE section on here and ask them.
WRT transport... if your DD is offered a place in her NEAREST school with spaces then it is viewed as her "designated" school and if it's more than 2 miles from home (primary age) the LA are obliged to provide transport assistance. Is the nearest school with places acceptable to you?
It might be worth getting a doctors note Verity....isn't your D suffering from anxiety due to all this....I may have go the wrong memory of anoher Mnrs child though.... docs note could certainly elp another appeal. Its not like you're pulling her out for no reason is it?
FabbyChic! I don't know where you get your info from but can assure you that all the home ed children I know spend nearly all their time with other children! The biggest problem we have is trying to stay on track educationally around an extremely busy social life where education and socialising is often done at the same time.
Having watched my youngest (SN) go through school totally alone, shunned, and hurt all the way to yr 8, I can also confirm that school isn't the place everyone 'learns to make friends and play' and growing closely as the victim of others is no childhood at all.
For some children and parents school/the available school, is a nightmare and/or bad for the child, the same can be said of home ed if parent/s don't provide well, it all depends on the provision and what works best for each individual child and their family.
Veritythebrave, making the assumption that you need the work? and dont want to move? Then either option three and hope you can find childcare, orption 4 sounds like a sensible start for an unsure parent potentially backfooted into home ed (which I was, but now a surprised convert :-) ) whos in your position, and a good way of keeping some of the routine of school (esp if youre considering on-line or returning to school) Once youve sorted out your routine you can take a longer harder look at if you think h/e or on-line or flexi schooling is for you, and if it isnt are in a good position to work on getting her into one of those schools or looking for a new house.