'Quit your day job and go on nights so I can keep my job and I'll get you up at 1.45pm everyday so you can look after our child so I can carry on working then when I get at 7pm you can get ready for work?'
Sister and bf split up in september last year, they got back together in early march. In the meantime sister got a part time job of 13.5hours per week. BF moved back in with her, for a while mum was childcare for nephew(17mths) She went back to work in May after been on sick 19 weeks with bad back. (Mum found it hard carrying/holding DN) but to keep peace with sister kept on the childcare.
She has a friend look after DN during week but as DN is demanding and cries from 2pm-7pm whilst sis friend has him she feels drained so has told her she can't have him no more. Plus her mum is recovering from breast cancer.
Sister has now told BIL that he has to quit his day job and get a nights job. So he can be woken mon-fri at 1.45 before she goes to work to 7pm when she gets in, then he will have an hour before setting off to work. He bikes to work 5miles away currently, he has asked management about 2 nights jobs that are vacant but been told they are reserved for polish.
She has since told him to get a warehouse job on nights cos she isn't quitting.
I have advised her to up her hours if possible at work to 16 so she can get childcare paid at 70% but she point blank refuses to even ask to up her hours another 2.5 hours.
WELL IT WOULDN'T GO LIKE THAT you see its a partnership and we both do what we have to do to get the food and keep the roof.
so - if he said to me - 'OI you quit your job and go on nights....etc'
i'd tell him to kiss my arse until he said down and had the right attitude or id kick his balls so far up his arse he would taste his own cheese.
if however he said ' mrs custy, we're in a pickle - the only solution i see is you working nights, i need to keep my job becuase of the pension/ the pernamant nature/ location whatever the reason' i would sayu ' of course i see your point mr custy, and it is certainly something i will look into as i will also look for other roles whih might make our predicament a little easier
now pour the wine mr custy and lets have rampant sex
Well, I wouldn't tell anyone else they had to work nights or survive on the amount of sleep I get by on.
I know I can cope and I have done it for 8 years but alot of people don't cope with nights or minimal sleep and it has to be the individuals choice. It was my choice to do nights, dh wouldn't have suggested it and he has always worried about the effect the nights have.
Your Sister is being unreasonable(I know you didn't ask) it's not her decision to make.