Sometimes when people post on this board they are quite sure what the response they're going to get is but in this case I really don't think it is that simple. My OH smokes and I don't. His smoking is only now starting to irritate me. I'm thinking of asking him to stop but I might just be being a bit selfish.
Reasons I shouldn't ask him
My OH was a smoker when I met him over 3 years ago, he has always made it clear that it is something he enjoys and he doesn't want to quit. He claims it is his one little pleasure.
Reasons I want him to
Firstly, and my strongest argument, we have a DD who is 13 weeks old. Although he doesn't smoke in the house he does come in smelling of smoke and is occasionally his reasoning for why he can't have DD when I need a break. He also belongs to the group of smokers that believe if they smoke outside near the baby it is safe.
My second argument is the cost. His habit costs us approximately £250 a month. He is also a big spender and likes to treat himself to nice (read expensive) things. This year he has already treated himself to a camera (~£250) and an exercise bike (£200) as where I have only treated myself to some new clothes (~£40) after I realized all my old ones were stretched and the reason a woman asked when my baby was due . So basically I'm jealous he gets so much more of our income for personal use (I regard it as a luxury and he regards it as a necessary expense) than I do and I'm angry that we could easily have a better standard of living if he'd quit. Next week we're going on holiday but this will be our last for a couple of years but we could sure afford another if he didn't spend that money.
Should I speak to him about it or am I just being unreasonable as this is the man I met. Am I asking him to change who he is? WWYD?
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1Catherine1 · 25/06/2011 16:15
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