So far I think I have trodden the fine line well. Today I stuffed up a bit by asking if she was planning a second (this is the first)
What else should I avoid? So far:
>I haven't touched the bump (have been invited to but baby hasn't been kicking while I was around) >I haven't commented on how big she's got apart from how well she's managed to only put weight on the bump, not elsewhere (something she was worried about in early pregnancy) >I have made it clear I don't expect to see her for the next month or two, or until she contacts me >I have made it clear I'm happy to do washing/cleaning/supermarket shops/watch baby for an hour so she can have some time to herself >Discussed with her how we can accomodate baby in our weekly swimming
Am I doing it right? I don't have kids or neices or nephews, and DP's nieces and nephews were all toddlers and up when I first met them <scared>
Heehee, Fliss, we had that conversation today when we met for lunch. She's being bombarded with texts etc asking if she's had it yet! I've told her my shifts for the next week and said that if she needs a lift anywhere just ring. Otherwise, I assume I'll get one of two options.
1) A phone call in about a week going "Piiiiiiiidj, any chance you can pop to the supermarket and get me some milk"
2) A phone call in a month to see if I'm up for going swimming and do I fancy a cuddle
Oh, or 3) "Pidj, I've got no (essential item of clothing) how fast can you make me some"
She's got more experienced family close by so while I've said I'm happy to help, it's only if Mum etc aren't available
They told me the name yet, so it's either something outrageous or they haven't decided. I expect that nodding and saying how much it suits baby are the recommended responses???
it sounds like you're doing everything right, tbh, you sound like a very sensitive and thoughtful friend. The only thing now is to avoid any labour/induction horror stories, but you know that, don't you