To expect a reply to my texts?

[IRCL]

Text daughter's dad, on Wednesday night, (He's just got back from Barcelona) asking to arrange a day to see DD and so that she can give him his Father's day card and to see her obviously. No reply, Wait a bit longer, no reply.

So I text again saying please can you let me know of your plans as I have some to finalise. Again no reply.

AIBU to be pissed off and think that in 10 days he should text to see if his daughter is OK?

[jeckadeck]

YANBU. Unless he's had a terrible accident or is sick, has lost his phone or otherwise incapacitated. Assuming this is not the case then he's being a lazy, feckless untogether so and so who doesn't deserve his father's day card.

[HellonHeels]

Can you call him? Sometimes texts go astray - a phone call is more direct.

But yes, ideally he would have been in touch with his daughter without being nudged or reminded.

[IRCL]

Jeck - his FB status would say he isn't ill. been in an accident or anything else, just an ignorant fucker I think!

I'll ring him in a abit Hellon, he doesn't usually answer though and makes me feel as if I am nagging him.

[MorticiaAddams]

YABU. If you want an instant reply then phone him.

[FreudianSlipper]

yes

i have had similar situation. ds was poorly, other than a text the first day to see if he is ok nothing. it is so upsetting because ds deserves better. i rise above though and do not get sarcastic, i used to but that played into his poor me attitude. when i asked him about times etc tom i let him know that ds is better and back at nursery.

now i am having a little cry and feeling better for it

[FreudianSlipper]

meant no you are not being unreasonable

[SinicalSal]

Ring him, the fuckwit.
The irony of him being a feckless bollix when it comes to his child wanting to hon our him for Fathers Day is just staggering.

[bejeezus]

YANBU expecting him to have contacted his daughter by now

YABU expecting to have reliable/effective communications about any important matter by text and facebook messaging

[LoveBeingAbleToNamechange]

How long did you leave between texts?

[fairydoll]

i sometinmes get texts days after they were sent

[FreudianSlipper]

even if he did not receive the texts surely he shoudl be making some sort of contact, unless he is lying in a gutter concussed and has lost his memory there really is no excuse

[IRCL]

Text him Wednesday evening, then last night, not too late either, he is always up late anyway.

I haven't mesasged him via Facenook just checked that he was definitely home, which he is.

Surely if he has time to update his Facebook profile he has time to answer a simple text?

Just rang him now, rings and then goes on to answerphone.

I wont be dropping my plans for him now, that's for sure.

Feel like I am always making the effort for him to see DD.

[IRCL]

Messaged not mesasaged. Oh and I don't know what Facenook is. Facebook.

[kaid100]

Well it sounds like you've made an decent enough effort to get in touch, I'd wait and see how long it takes until he tries himself now.

[SinicalSal]

Is DD noticing he's not being in touch, or is it over her head?

[kenobi]

You could post on his facebook wall saying that you have tried to get in contact with him to arrange for his daughter etc etc, and as he hasn't replied in 10 DAYS you are terribly worried about him...

< evil smile >

[ZillionChocolate]

I guess he's an ex for a reason?....

[M0naLisa]

did you contact him?

[Takeresponsibility]

My best friend is always telling me off for this. She thinks I should reply to her texts within 12 hours or so. I consider my phone to be the devil incarnate that only comes out of my handbag when I want to use it. If anyone wants me urgently they can ring the house or work phone.

Yes, he is unreasonable not to have contacted his daughter on his return to see how she is, what she's been doing etc, but he's not unreasonable to treat his phone as an appliance for his own use, not as a means to be perpetually on call.