Very quick back ground...my mum didnt want me to have both my ds's but was fine with them once they were here..totally smitted with my 1st and baby's him - feeds him with a spoon herself, lets him have anything he wants sweet wise, bleeding carrys him if he's being lazy (he's now 4). My other ds (6months) she'll hold/show a little interest but clearly not favourite.
Today was ds's sports day - she invited herself, not hinted or even asked.
Ds came out with his 'team' and we saw him (me, dh, my mum and dad) and waved and moved closer so we could see what he was doing in his different activities and my mum (rather than standing back to watch like we did) went right up to him threw her arms round him and said hello baby - so ds being ds wanted to play and my mum actually walked with him in the egg and spoon race! Me and dh were fuming so i told her to leave him he's in his team were suppose to watch! SO this time she stood at the end of the track with her arms wide open so she could give him a cuddle when he got there (it was only a little track). Ds was having fun then and started doing everything without her but she stood behind him hovering with her arms open - again i told her to come back he's fine! SHe wasnt happy at all but finally did it. Ds then took it in turns with all his group to go on the actvitys and come out of his shell a bit which was lovely to see.
Ds fell over and my mum rushed to him a picked him up and started cuddling him and he started screaming (he was fine just fell on grass) so dh went over and took his hand and calmed him down in less than a few seconds he was smiling again and forgot about it - if my mum had carried on he'd still be in her arms crying now. Another thing that REALLY annoyed me was i was holding ds2 and i said "would you like to hold him" and she said "oh no i cant he pulls my hair" and walked off to ds1 - really she didnt want anything stopping her grabbing ds1.
Got back to my mums house and my mum offered him a cake (suprise suprise) i thought fair enough he's been good at sports day a treat wont hurt him - he brought a plate in room and sat down ready for his cake (we were all sat in room), my mum came in and said "Oh u need a different plate" (must of been dirty or something dunno) and went in conservotory and shouted him and sat in their with him away from us all :/
She's getting worse - i dont mind her coming to sports day - it would of been nice for her to ask or hint for a invite at least! its just her behaviour is appaling Ds did so well today when she took a step back. I'm gonna tell teachers tomorrow that i'm picking ds up coz i know theres a good chance she'll still turn up for him :/
The icing on the cake is today ds randomly said "fires make you die" so i asked what he ment and he says grandma said it!! I sent her a message asking her about this (thinking maybe he'd been near a fire or seen an extinguisher or something and she told him to come out or he might get hurt etc). The
convo went like this:
Me: Ds has said you told him fires make you die?
Mum: no not mentioned fires
Mum: not been near / seen a fire to mention
Mum: he comes out with some stuff lately lol
(at this point i was typing my reply - but recieved the next messages so never bothered sending it)
Mum: anyway ds says you and dh dont love him
Mum: oh and he's been asking to come live with me
I have bitten my tongue on loads of occasions as she use to look after ds1 whilst i worked part time so i tried to keep the piece, i'm due to return to work in 4 weeks from maternity leave :s
WTF? Advice what to do?
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pinkyp · 24/06/2011 00:01
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