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veritythebrave Thu 23-Jun-11 16:30:36

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worraliberty Thu 23-Jun-11 16:36:54

Age please?

I doubt they'd say that to the LEA or new school but I don't think the Head should be putting words into her mouth.

What's the real reason she doesn't want to go?

GypsyMoth Thu 23-Jun-11 16:39:26

i suppose like any teacher,she was trying to help. teachers are human too

my dd is 14 and mentioned this week at parents evening she was not staying for A levels but going to college before applying to the army (she wants to go in military police)....teacher said she could apply to army straight from school and cut out college if she wanted

now dd is thinking she might,i was shock....dd is now using it as a tool. 'i WILL join up asap if you dont give me more allowance/take me here or there'

i am shock

altinkum Thu 23-Jun-11 16:40:06

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GypsyMoth Thu 23-Jun-11 16:41:54

did you have another thread on this verity?

altinkum Thu 23-Jun-11 16:43:23

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veritythebrave Thu 23-Jun-11 16:45:07

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tethersend Thu 23-Jun-11 16:45:58

You have nothing to fear.

Any head teacher who thinks that one of her pupils is school refusing because of the weather hmm should probably know not to mention it to the LEA or the new school.

And if she does, I promise it won't be you who looks stupid.

Nixea Thu 23-Jun-11 16:48:46

If it helps at all then it really doesn't matter to the LEA what your reason is for withdrawing her from school - the only bit they'll care about it that you are providing her with "an education that is suitable to her needs and abilities". Which in our case meant asking for a philosophy of eduction and then never hearing from them again!

Sorry you're having a bad time of it with the school though.

GypsyMoth Thu 23-Jun-11 16:50:03

a thread today i meant,maybe it was someone else!

veritythebrave Thu 23-Jun-11 16:51:08

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veritythebrave Thu 23-Jun-11 16:53:08

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ZZZenAgain Thu 23-Jun-11 16:53:36

if you have any other options , I would pull her out of there, sounds like an utter waste of time and horrible to boot. Not surprised she doesn't want to go. Is this a small village school?

altinkum Thu 23-Jun-11 16:54:41

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DogsBestFriend Thu 23-Jun-11 16:58:58

I read your other post and was nodding throughout it. So much of what you said is familiar.

I'm sure you're a nice woman and wouldn't act as I now would. I'd go right up to the HT and fecking floor her (verbally) for that trick. Experience has taught me that it's a dangerous move to allow these things to go unchallenged.

More calmly, I suggest that you email the HT at length about the issues of bullying and refusal and incorporate into that email a very clear account of how the HT acted and what she said this morning with a strong refutal that the weather has anything to do with it. Then cc it to your MP for his/her information and to Dr Carrie Herbert, the founder of the UK's only specialist schools for bullied children, Red Balloon - and to RB's Director of Education, Dr Bob Sproson -

Bob used to be the head of the Inclusion department of a Home Counties LA, responsible for keeping children in school/getting them back in there and as such is invaluable to parents fighting a hostile system. Carrie will advise you/put you on to sources of support (my own daugher is one of RB's pupils, I know Carrie as a result and have 101% faith in her). RB pupils start at age 9, this isn't a "recruitment drive" it's just that I've been where you are and genuinely think that Carrie and/or Bob will be able to offer valuable advice.

I'd also suggest that you speak to the Children's Legal Centre and ask them for further advice.

Don't hesitate to give me a pm if you think I might be able to help at all from the POV of someone who's been in your shoes.

IndigoBell Thu 23-Jun-11 17:01:15

It doesn't matter why you take your child out (unless you're lodging a formal complaint)

You don't need a reason to HE. Anybody can do it, at any time.

The LEA won't care why you're HEing. One less person for them to pay for smile

veritythebrave Thu 23-Jun-11 17:02:47

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altinkum Thu 23-Jun-11 17:08:10

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tethersend Thu 23-Jun-11 17:09:41

Hang on. you're paying for this headteacher's expert opinion?

Time to find a new school. Now.

veritythebrave Thu 23-Jun-11 17:15:12

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veritythebrave Thu 23-Jun-11 17:17:40

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veritythebrave Thu 23-Jun-11 17:23:23

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MumblingRagDoll Thu 23-Jun-11 17:26:17

God Verity....your situation mirrors my own in some ways...I won't go into them now becasue they're not as bad as mine.

I DO however think you need to appeal to get into the school over the need to get help on here with how to approach it...your DD is having trouble where she is and they NEED to get her in locally.

DogsBestFriend Thu 23-Jun-11 17:41:26

Verity have you spoken to your LA's Inclusion Manager? Are the LA willing and able to implement their Fair Access Policy if you took DD out of school immediately and needed a place for her, because they should do. Under the FAP the LA should be able to allocate a school for DD and order that school to accept her even if it is over-subscribed, unlike the conditions of a normal admission application. They're also obliged to take your views into account (though obviously don't have to accede to your wishes). It's for this sort of info I'd recommend that you email RB's Bob Sproson - this was his area until about a year ago when he joined RB and he will know the ins and outs of it.

And I learned all this and acted upon the advice successfully thanks to the poster on here called pr47bridge. If you post this OP on the Education or Primary Education section of MN asking for pr47bridge to help I've no doubt at all that you'll get excellent, solid advice.

veritythebrave Thu 23-Jun-11 17:50:46

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