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CocktailQueen Wed 22-Jun-11 22:09:49

He got in from work about 10 mins ago - late, granted, but has been sitting on delayed train in 1st class compartment with laptop so he has been working - I had literally just sat down as had been cleaning shower, making dd's packed lunch, other housework etc. I asked casually, fancy a cuppa/something to eat? and put kettle on, then went upstairs to put away washing.

He called up to me 5 mins later, in aggrieved tone, 'are you making me anything or do I have to make it?' so I said, 'well, I'll make your cuppa but why don't you look in fridge to see what you'd like'... he said 'you offered me tea then disappeared - I've been working all day' - yes but I have too!!!! So AIBU to be so cross with him? Grumpy old shit.

Ivortheengine8 Wed 22-Jun-11 22:12:04

mmm I get that most nights. I just see it as part of my housework!

CocktailQueen Wed 22-Jun-11 22:14:51

Hmm, am reading Wifework at the moment so maybe it has made me more militant than usual! But I wasn't expecting him for tea so hadn't made any (or for me!)

Ivortheengine8 Wed 22-Jun-11 22:16:15

Oh right ok. That does piss me off if he tells me he doesn't/won't be wanting tea and then starts moaning if there is none!

Thingumy Wed 22-Jun-11 22:18:47

yanbu but next time don't offer the 'something to eat?' line.

GypsyMoth Wed 22-Jun-11 22:19:52

i dont get this? it isnt 1950 is it??

BluddyMoFo Wed 22-Jun-11 22:21:38

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Ivortheengine8 Wed 22-Jun-11 22:22:54

It is in my house Ilovetiffany! grin
Honestly, I don't mind doing the meals,housework ect as I am a SAHM but it certainly would be different if I was working.

AnyFucker Wed 22-Jun-11 22:23:46

Ivor, you see your husband giving you orders as just more "housework" ?

that is fucked up

Ivortheengine8 Wed 22-Jun-11 22:24:54

No, but if I offer to give him dinner, its normal to give it isnt it?!

Ivortheengine8 Wed 22-Jun-11 22:26:52

Ok I don't understand what I wrote ther either!
I mean I don't mind making meals as usually he is home to eat them and when he gets in I offer it, he says yes...........thats not an order.

PaisleyLeaf Wed 22-Jun-11 22:27:48

grin BluddyMoFo

millie30 Wed 22-Jun-11 22:27:54

The OP had only popped upstairs for 5 minutes, and he was yelling at her. That's bloody rude, whether she had offered him dinner or not.

Ivortheengine8 Wed 22-Jun-11 22:28:48

Not yelling millie, OP said he called up!

millie30 Wed 22-Jun-11 22:29:44

Called in an aggrieved tone then. It's still rude IMO.

AnyFucker Wed 22-Jun-11 22:44:36

I would see that as "give me my dinner now, wench"

which would prompt a "fuck off and DIY" response from me

from my POV, that is the most appropriate reply to someone expecting I would drop everything immediately when they walked through the door

PurpleCrazyHorse Wed 22-Jun-11 23:02:04

I think if you offered a cuppa and something to eat then I'd probably assume you would at least shout through what you'd found in the fridge. I wouldn't however shout up the stairs at you if you'd only been gone 5mins.

Maybe next time just offer a cuppa or say there's stuff in the fridge if you're hungry. Which is my usual line to DH.

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