I heard an advert for this website this morning (DD was watching Peppa whilst I was putting make-up on). I was idly musing about the costs of these initiatives when I realised I DON'T PLAY with the children. I do cook with them, try to make their homework fun, organise for them to see their friends regularly, do day trips etc, but I almost never join in their play. They don't play together and, at 3 and 6, trying to find something they both want to do is tricky. When DD is at school I often just let DS do his own thing (Lego, playing in the garden etc) and am just there to answer his questions. So, AIBU in previously assuming that I DON'T need parenting intervention in the form of websites...?
my computer wont let me look at it because of malwear. i dont play with my kids either, or very rarely anyway. i mean i would play fight or dance with them and things but ask me to sit with a car and talk to a horse and my brain explodes. thats what i get their friends over for. i will sit and talk to the happily but run around being a character from sonic the hedgehog, i cannot do.
It does make me laugh wryly that our biggest reason for having a second was so they could be playmates/companions. My two generally ignore each other and when they are both in the house they each want me to play something different, so I just don't play with either. Yet another way in which I am not the parent I thought I would be...
of course we all should play more, but I suspect most of us are good parents that do iur best. anyway I hate boys toys! I do read to DS1 every day, polishes halo.... but unfortunately sometimes after a hard day at work I find myself cooking, cleaning, tidying instead. c;est la vie
When I first heard the advert I thought that it was for parents who plonk their kids in front of the TV, or who drag them around the shops for leisure... Then I realised that I (possibly most of us) sometimes do this as well. I suspect it is to encourage more interaction but it made me wonder, how much interaction is enough?!
I think they've just latched on to the word 'play' because it immediately conjures up ideas of interaction. Children definitely need to play as an essential part of their development. Children also definitely need interaction with their parents (and their peers). As long as the children are getting the chance to play and are also spending time doing stuff with their parents (e.g reading) I don't think it's necessary for the parents to have to be the ones playing with the child.