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to be getting my hopes up?

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featherbag Mon 20-Jun-11 21:36:33

My DH and I are expecting our first baby in November. In the 11 years we've been together, I've always been the main earner (which has never been an issue, for me at least). As things stand at the minute, I earn about 9k more than him, and because of this I'm going to be limited as to how much ML I can take, plus I'm going to have to go back full time afterwards. My DH has been with his present company for about a year, doing a job he's over-qualified for with a bunch of bone idle wankers who've been making his life a misery because he actively looks for ways to do his job better/more efficiently and makes them look bad. Anyway...... he's just found out he's got an interview for a post in the same company , which he's slightly under-qualified for. It's an £11k payrise. I'd be able to take a full year's ML and got back on 28 hours.

AIBU to get my hopes up? Trying to pretend to DH that I'm not, but I can't help it, I know he might not (probably won't) get it as he is slightly under-qualified, but the fella interviewing him has already been giving him more responsibility than his longer-serving colleagues.

PS, I know no-one can see the future, but in this situation would you be able to resist a little fantasy future-planning?!

Bottleofbeer Mon 20-Jun-11 21:38:23

Nothing wrong in hoping, hope he gets the job! smile

Geordieminx Mon 20-Jun-11 21:38:59

Fingers crossed for you, if it's meant to be then it will happen.

MrsSharp Mon 20-Jun-11 21:42:22

YANBU - I often get my hopes up, but try to avoid putting too much pressure on DH (unless he needs a bit of a push!). Really hope your DH gets the job - sounds like he's in with a shot.

queenmaeve Mon 20-Jun-11 21:45:34

nothing wrong with positive thinking smile fingers crossed whatever happens it will work out for you

Groovee Mon 20-Jun-11 21:49:35

Fingers crossed for him

featherbag Mon 20-Jun-11 21:52:06

Guess we'll know by the end of next week! The other reason I'm finding it hard not to get my hopes up is the timing - I'm of the firm belief that everything sorts itself out the way it's meant to in the end. We're about to be dropped into a very deep housing-shaped hole which we have had no part in digging, yet can't afford to winch ourselves out of. Less cryptically, because of our shitty landlord, it's likely we'll find ourselves with nowhere to live, less than 7 weeks before our baby is born. With our other financial commitments, there's no way we can save up enough for moving expenses such as rental deposit, fees, first month's rent, etc. by then on our current income. If he were to get this job, the pay increase would allow us to worry a hell of a lot less about this. Surely this is the way this situation is meant to sort itself out? (I do know that's totally illogical BTW, with no basis in fact, before anyone points it out!)

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