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Aw, I feel for you. I don't think YABU. People just don't understand sometimes. I have the opposite problem. I'm trying to get out and people keep cancelling on me at the very last minute and it's starting to do my head in.

Just relax. That friend will understand when she is pregnant one day or if she's already had a baby she's just having a momentary lapse in memory.

You're alright, and you must do what's best for you.

Oh, you're broke and in pain and tired, of course you don't have to go. I always say, if it's a good friend who can't come to something, that I'm disappointed as well - but I mean it like 'I like your company and wish you were here' because i don't want to reply 'fine, whatever, we'll have as much fun without you'.

You're fine. And yes, probably hormonal.

You know what, you can cross selfish off your list for a start. I never realised until I was pregnant how draining it can be, and how much you really sometimes just need to focus on looking after yourself - if that's eating right, getting enough sleep, TLC etc. then so be it. Don't beat yourself up over it. Some people sail through pregnancy 'glowing' and feeling fantastic. I didn't. Give yourself a break.

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YANBU. Look after yourself, your friends will understand, and moreover would not want you to come out if not well. If they think otherwise you might want to look at new friends! And good on your DH for staying in with you, not that you'd expect anything less!

Thanks for the kind words I know I'm being tough on myself but I also hate letting friends down. I have a present for her so I think I'll pop round soon and hopefully that'll make up for it

I didn't realise I'd feel this tired either! But I'm guessing this is just mother natures way of warming me up for the near future!

Do you normally feel guilty very easily? Because I think it's a bit OTT to feel guilty about this...you were sick and broke, why would you go out? I'm sure your friend still had a great time and won't hold it against you.

I was dreadfully sick throughout my pregnancy and missed loads of stuff. That's life, right? My friends understood and it was no problem picking up again once I felt better.

I wonder if deep down you are just sad you missed a chance to go out? I don't know why you would feel paranoid, surely sick and pregnant is a perfectly good excuse not to go out.

Yanbu- I felt like this when I was pregnant but forced myself to go out. My friends who are pregnant now say they don't know how I did it!

Just relax and enjoy your last few months of pregnancy xxx

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Yes you are being too hard on yourself!

Try to take it easy. You really want to get some rest now, while you still can

YANBU, but neither is your friend. Her message back to you sounds completely fine. You're reading too much into her "disappointed" comment.