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to think that its fathers day and not grandfathers day

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MrsC1977 Sun 19-Jun-11 11:29:20

My mil bought a fathers day card for my 2 year old to scribble on to give to her grandad. Aibu to understand why she did this. Its fathers day not grandad day

scuzy Sun 19-Jun-11 11:30:20

for the love of god i it really upsetting you? what a nice thing to do. jaysus tis easy annoy ye!

RubyFakeNails Sun 19-Jun-11 11:31:04

YABU. It's a nice gesture stop being a misery. If when your a grandmother on mothers day and your grandchild who imagine you would adore did that don't say it wouldn't seem sweet and lovely.

usualsuspect Sun 19-Jun-11 11:31:50

yabu and a misery guts

zelda1982 Sun 19-Jun-11 11:32:14

My girls made my dad a card and i got him his own "special grandad" cup for him to use when he comes here. Its not exactly the end of the world?? We dont celebrate "grandparents day" so mothers day and fathers day accounts for nanas and grandads too.

DilysPrice Sun 19-Jun-11 11:32:30

Did your DH send his father a card? Possibly this is a subtle hint.

wimpybar Sun 19-Jun-11 11:33:22

my kids get my dad cards and things, and he's coming for dinner.

your op is a bit sad and i have a little tear in my eye now

KurriKurri Sun 19-Jun-11 11:33:37

Well my dad got things from grandchildren as well as children, - he's got alzheimers so doesn't really have any idea what's going on, - but I wouldn't begrudge him a card and a few sweeties from his family.

I think the concept of 'Father' can be stretched to include those who were the fathers of us and our spouses.

scuzy Sun 19-Jun-11 11:33:59

this i believe is the bottom of the barrel of AIBU threads. get over it!

scuzy Sun 19-Jun-11 11:34:56

is their grandfather not a father??????!

Portofino Sun 19-Jun-11 11:35:09

Well in my case my Dad was universally crap, and it was my Grandad who did the "work" so Father's day is always Grandfather's Day to me!

pointydog Sun 19-Jun-11 11:35:53

All the op has said is that she doesn't understand why her mil has done this. I wouldn't get it either. It's up to your husband to send his dad a card. Does he?

trixymalixy Sun 19-Jun-11 11:36:10

Surely by definition a grandfather is a father too? YABU

AuntiePickleBottom Sun 19-Jun-11 11:36:38

i think it is sweet

scuzy Sun 19-Jun-11 11:37:45

exactly trixy. talk about nitpicking. its a lovely thing to do and so not worth getting a hump or having to "understand" it.

cookcleanerchaufferetc Sun 19-Jun-11 11:37:48

YANBU .... Hallmark invented grandparents day in September I think it is!

Fathers day cards are for children of any age to give their father.... Name says it all!

edam Sun 19-Jun-11 11:38:22

Sounds lovely. Didn't occur to me to get my own father a card from ds as well as from me but I usually get ds to write in the card I send. Only I'm a crap daughter this year and forgot to get my Dad a card anyway. blush I have been VERY busy in a brand-new job though...

ZacharyQuack Sun 19-Jun-11 11:38:25

Regardless of the reason the OP's MIL did this, it's a simple way to make both MIL and FIL happy, with no effort required from the OP. Result.

MumblingRagDoll Sun 19-Jun-11 11:38:58

We give my Mum a "Granny" card on Mothers day from my DDs....it's nice! She's a Mother...a granny or Grandfather is a parent too.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Sun 19-Jun-11 11:40:02

I agree with you, OP, it's not necessary and it's a bit odd. It's not for your MIL to decide to do it either, it would be you or DH... confused

pointydog Sun 19-Jun-11 11:41:00

Yes, a grandfather is a father. Doesn't mean everyone will feel happy with setting up routines where fathers and grandfathers and mothers and grandmothers get cards on those days as well as birthdays and Christmas and anniversaries and heavens knows what.

There are lots of ways to show fondness and consideration without having to remember cards for every tenuous 'special day'.

scuzy Sun 19-Jun-11 11:43:01

but the MIL got the card. whats the harm??? sigh

L8rAllig8r Sun 19-Jun-11 11:43:23

Yep, I give my DS's grandparents mothers day and fathers day cards. Why not? It's a nice thing to do. It's not even as though your MIL asked you to buy one. YABU.

KurriKurri Sun 19-Jun-11 11:43:37

Well the MIL bought the card -so she wasn't expecting OP to shell out.

Its not a big deal surely - if a card will make him smile, why not give one?

Disasterpiece Sun 19-Jun-11 11:43:37

YANBU I agree with Lyingwitchinthewardrobe

It is fathers day. He is not father to your children...

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