Yes I get that a lot of people don't like babyshowers. Some said that from the start which is fair enough. Its the ones that are supposed to be good friends/family and thought it was a fab idea eg were part of the planning ect... That I don't understand. Surely a good friend can spare a few hours of their time to be excited for their friend! Childcare isn't an issue as I've emphasised they're more than welcome xx
But as it's a surprise, she won't know that lots of people have cancelled, and will probably be really pleased that you've gone to the trouble of organising it and that 6 lovely people and you are celebrating with her.
Perhaps they are pleased for her but don't feel the need to go to a baby shower. After all they are a new development [no disrespect to Americans] and they just are probably not seen as that important .
Yeah she will be happy with just 6 people! Plus it'll be more intimate. Btw we aren't buying presents as I know a lot of people aren't comfortable with this! We are just playing a few games, drinking fake champagne and eating cupcakes. I'm excited :-) x
Six people will be much nicer than 20. You can have a proper chat and a nice time without overwhelming your friend, who's probably pretty much ready to put her feet up by 37 weeks.
If you wanted, you could always do some pampering things eg. applying face masks, giving each other massages, painting nails - the stuff she will not be doing for ages once the baby arrives - which would not have been appropriate with 20, but would be nice and relaxing with 6.
I know it's a disappointment to you (and I would be pissed off too) but the main thing is that your friend enjoys it, which I'm sure she will.
Yeah, you should! I went to a hen do once where we stayed in, did each other's nails, wore face masks and just chatted and ate a load of chocolate. A few of us drank wine, others drank tea. It was one of the best I've been to and the hen was not even pregnant.
Whether you agree with baby showers or not is not really the point here, The OP asked why people say they will come to an occasion and then cancel.
TBH i have know idea.
I know when people have cancelled on me the reasons have been that they said yes so far in advance their work rotas weren't yet wrote out, they have been completly skinted by the time of the do, they have been so overwhelmed with the latest drama in their lives.
I think the trick is to ask too many and know some people will drop out but some will come.