Scumbag sister as reached an all time low

[Pumpernickel10]

I have spoken about my scumbag sister before on a thread as she stole £6k from my dad whilst he was recovering from a broken hip.
Anyway my dad called today to tell me that my sister who I don't speak to anymore because of what she did to dad (he forgave her and blackmailed him saying he would never see her his granddaughter again) anyway it was my nieces birthday so I sent £25 and my dad sent £40. We both usually send vouchers but neither of us could get to toys r us. He called her to ask if the cards had arrived,she said yes and Dad said well I hope Lara buys something nice with it,my sister said shes not having we are skint so we are having the money. They have recently come back from an all exclusive holiday in Spain.
AIBU to get so mad about this?
The money was for my niece not for my sister to spend on fags and a night out with her friends.
This is also the same sister that told the council she was not married so she could get housing benefit and council tax relief,shes happily married and her hubby lives with her.

[mummytigger]

Firstly - shop her to the benefit office. What she's doing is fraud, and is disgusting.

Secondly - how can she afford an all-inclusive holiday in Spain and then refuse to buy toys for her childs birthday?! She doesn't even sound fit to be a parent in my eyes - the whole point of being a parent is putting your child first, because they are just children and they are dependant upon you.

She sounds like a horrible person. YANBU. She is.

[ajandjjmum]

She sounds vile, but knowing what she's like, shouldn't you have guessed what would happen.

Next time get your DN a card, and buy the present for her, so there's no messing around.

[AgentZigzag]

I saw the post you're talking about and think saying she's a cheeky mare would be an understatement.

Your poor niece.

How will she explain you both not sending anything to her DD? Or will she just not bother?

Borrowing a couple of quid from your DC when you're short is one thing, but to just take their birthday money - and then tell the people who sent it is beyond the pale

[JudysJudgement]

stop giving her money

if you want to do something for the child, put money in a building society and give it to her when she is 18

and shop the liar to the benefits people

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow]

Ask your sister to set up an Amazon wish list for you to buy your niece gifts from, or did you know that you can buy all sorts of gift vouchers in the supermarkets now, not just their own brand ones.

[welshbyrd]

Only thing you can do is buy gifts from now on

[HerHissyness]

JudysJudgement says it all for me.... good call

[PinotsKittens]

I agree with Judy

[RockStockAndTwoOpenBottles]

Oh how awful. I agree with JudysJ and that perhaps you should open a deposit account for your DN to have access to from her 18th Birthday. There'll be a nice little nest egg for her - tell DN what you're doing and send her cards each year - with or without a tiny token something.

And I would also shop her. If they can afford an all-in holiday to Spain, they can bloody well afford to live without benefits.

[Pumpernickel10]

Someone else actually shopped her,I only knew about it after the event.
I really feel for my niece,I sent money as did dad as she wanted some sketchers,now she won't have any. Poor love.
Knowing her she won't even give her the cards and probably tell her we sent naff all.
As for the holiday well I don't know where the money come from,probably the money she nicked off dad no doubt but as she came home skint and her DH does not get paid for a month she decided to help herself to Lara money.

[Pumpernickel10]

I will buy her gifts from now on,we actually did that in the beginning as I liked the thought of her opening something up but as she got older it got harder.My mom always said never send money as she won't get it,wise words as always mom.

[RockStockAndTwoOpenBottles]

That is so sad. Perhaps you and some other relatives could club together to buy her some skechers. They are less than £20 on Amazon at the moment (for the Junior size 11/12).

[Pumpernickel10]

Thats what we are going to do,well me and Dad,we have such a small family really,but DD will speak to her later to find out the exact pair she wants.

[microserf]

that's sad, your sister sounds utterly vile.

agree with other posters, could you open an account for your niece or buy the actual present?

[RockStockAndTwoOpenBottles]

Well, Pumpernickel I think you'll make a lovely young girl VERY happy. That's really nice - perhaps in future you can get DD to speak with DN before birthdays and Christmases to find out what DN really wants and purchase accordingly.

[ddubsgirl]

my in laws use to do this to my dh & his siblings all the time,they would borrow the birthday money but it never got paid back :(
very sad,as others have said maybe you could send her the item or take her out shopping instead?