He should have said something sooner but has he tried to? Have you been prepared to listen? Sometimes people who are intent on getting their own way about superstition really don't want to listen to another viewpoint.
Well, he's got as much say in where your child goes as you do. Of course he can change his mind if he's not comfortable with the Catholic school, having only just seen it for himself. Whether you can get a place elsewhere I don't know.
Yes, he can change his mind, and has equal right to take decisions about education, but agree that it is rather late for him to express opposition. Suppose it depends on other options locally for this September - his job to do the legwork?
he is entitled to change his mind but it is a bit late IMO, and TBH I dont see the problem with saints and "letters to god" in a church school. I mean maybe not the saints but the letters to god I would expect to see in any church school, on an open day at least because we all know they play to the audience at that time. It wouldnt even shock me to see it (religion appropriate iykwim) in any school demonstrating how they teach RE.
What exactly is his problem with it other than too much god? If it was an open day maybe ask if you can visit on a normal day, because obviously the god is a selling point isnt it so they "sell" it, it might not be a prominant as he thinks. But I think you need to talk and get to the root of his problem
I'm going to ignore the religious stuff as that isn't really what the post is about for me - your child will already have settled into her friendships and social life after a year (if you don't try and find somewhere by September - no idea how you will do that) - unless you have to move a child you shouldn't.
A child being settled is the important thing.
How is he planning to find a school now when she already has a place?
Could it be a chance for a discussion? People's thinking develops over time, and it may be a real opportunity to look at stuff and resolve any assumptions.
Anyone can do 'un/fair', but sometimes a partnership is all the better if we're kind as well as fair. The other thing is faith is a gift. And there's a monopoly on who's handing it out, so maybe his talking about isn't a problem.
do you think i might be more about religion overtaking other subjects rather than the religion itself? cos it sounds like hes ok with baptism.
what i mean is maybe hes worried his DD will be taught the bible version of evolution rather than science and the homosexuals are evil and go to hell etc etc? i think you need to talk because if this is the root of it then you will be able to ease his mind
YANBU. I'm with GML - am catholic, kids baptized, discussed before wedding they'd be brought up catholic etc then we discussed and agreed catholic school, etc. Which like yours is brilliant and therefore the v much overegg the god bit at open day to root out anyone who's not religious but just keen on te good school bit but havent thought it through and doesn't want their child "indoctrinated"...
I'd remind him about DD1 and that saints are really just meant to be examples of people who have lived a good life ie not nec a bad thing for your DC to hear about...the DCs prob won't even notice the saints, just see it as part ofthe school furniture (I know I never really noticed all the saints etc as my school, and I made up my own mind - you can't make someone have a faith)