to ask my dh to take a day off?

[mumsknitwino]

yesterday I had a wisdom tooth extraction. It wasnt straight forward, 7 injections, 7 stitches. Despite that, I am bruised today but pain is managable with painkillers. However the dentist at hopsital told me I should try to rest today as doing a lot could start off the bleeding again and increase the risk of dry socket. I have four young children so resting is easier said than done. I asked my husband if he could take the day off work to help look after them and he said no. Reason being I wasnt in agony so didnt need him. AIBU?

[Pallindrome]

YANBU. My DH is currently undergoing lots of extractions and on the day he has teeth out I arrange childcare (I work full time he is SAHD) as he needs to rest and recover. The worst extraction so far has been his wisdom tooth extraction (which was nowhere near as bad as yours sounds), he needed a couple of days to get over the worst of that.

Hoepe you're feeling better now OP

[thisisyesterday]

yanbu

you shouldn't have to be in "agony" before he takes a day off to help you out :(

[clutteredup]

YANBU

[clam]

And if the boot was on the other foot? If he had had teeth extracted? Or was unwell in any way? What would his response be if you were to up sticks and go out for the day leaving him to deal with 4 kids?

[WhoAteMySnickers]

I'm tempted to think YAB a little bit U, sorry!

When my DH had his wisdom teeth out under general anaesthetic he was told to avoid hot drinks, smoking, drinking through a straw, sneezing, blowing his nose and playing a wind musical instrument, basically anything that could dislodge the blood clot in the gum. He went to work the next day, he wasn't told not to.

I hope you managed to plonk the children in front of the TV organise some quiet activities for the children and I presume your DH would have come home had you started bleeding heavily or felt really ill.

[halcyondays]

YANBU especially if you were advised to rest by your dentist. Not much chance to rest with four young children to look after on your own.

[2rebecca]

I couldn't just take a day off work like that. I have people booked in to see me. I could cancel for an emergency but couldn't because my husband was in discomfort for something preplanned and just wanted to rest a bit.
Aren't any of the kids at school? Could you get another stay at home mum to help out and look after her kids one day in return?

[moondog]

How old sare the kids?
Will they be at school all day?

[Hatesponge]

It's difficult to say if YABU or not without knowing the nature of your DH's job. Like 2rebecca, I really couldn't just take a day off unplanned unless it was a life or death emergency, I have management meetings to attend and a team to run. A planned day off is fine, I make sure I've cleared my diary, and work a day ahead all week on all my tasks, briefed my team etc - but an ad hoc day off would be far from ideal.

[igggi]

You're not asking him to take the day off to look after you. You're asking him to take the day off for a childcare break-down (ie the carer can't manage it!) and his work need to let him off.

[igggi]

You're not asking him to take the day off to look after you. You're asking him to take the day off for a childcare break-down (ie the carer can't manage it!) and his work need to let him off.

[jasper]

Tough one. I am a dentist. I would not expect a patient to take a day off work following surgical extraction of a wisdom tooth .
The normal demands of looking after children are not likely to start bleeding.
it's just really active vigorous exercise you should avoid

[2rebecca]

With the teacher slagging threads would people like the OP really expect their kids' teacher not to go to school and teach their kids because their house husband wanted her to look after the kids so he could rest after a planned minor op?
I know very few people who can just not turn up to work at a day's notice unless it's an emergency.

[Omigawd]

OP does your DH have a job that lets someone take a day off at such short notice without consequences?

I do think reading some of these threads that SAHM don't really understand the workplace