to miss her glasses..

[stubbornhubby]

so here's what happened: yesterday evening myself, DW and DS went to the pub where we sat in the garden on a kind of ledge, as all tables occupied.

• after a while DW went inside to go to the bar to buy a second round of drinks
  
• while she was indoors a table became free, so DS and I quickly grabbed it
  
• twenty minutes later when we left the pub DW realised she didn't have her glases
  
• panic!
  

She found them on the ledge where we had been sitting earlier.

• DW said I should have taken more care when we moved to the table to make sure nothing was left behind
  
• I said DW shouldn't have left the glasses there in first place.
  

Obviously we both had a point, but my quesiton for the MN jury is :

• was this primarily her fault for leaving the glasses carelessly
  
• or primarily my fault for not checking for her possessions as we quickly moved spots while she was inside.

[StayingDavidTennantsGirl]

Six of one and half a dozen of the other, I think. Though I suspect you want us to say that it was all her fault and you are entirely innocent.

[fuckmepinkandcallmerosie]

You KNOW it was your fault. YABU to even come on here insinuating that it would somehow be your DW fault

Actually, I agree with SDTG - six and two threes.

[DeWe]

I think that your dw should know that you are a man and hence hopeless at noticing things that are obvious to us (greater) women. Therefore it is her fault for trusting you to manage to carry out a simple task. I bet you can't find anything in the fridge either?

Hee hee I'm running swiftly away now...

[Mamaz0n]

I think it was both of your who are equally responsible.

It is the sort of thing that is easily done and there should be no reason for it to be such a big deal tbh

[TattyDevine]

Yep you jumping to a table definitely made her more likely to leave her glasses. I had some friends do this at a pub once and my wallet got nicked in the process. You could say I shouldn't have left it there, but it looks like you don't trust your friends if you take your wallet to the toilet!

She should also be more aware of where her stuff is though, regardless of whether you are there or not...

[AgentZigzag]

I have to say I reckon it was your responsibility to check when you moved, your DW didn't know you were going to so why shouldn't she have put them down?

I suppose if you were being picky she perhaps should have put them in her bag or something, but she was going to get a round of drinks, so in my mind that should give her extra brownie points

[Scholes34]

Why are you asking? Of course it's your fault.

[chipmonkey]

Does it actually matter? She has her glasses back. don't sweat the small stuff.

[kreecherlivesupstairs]

You're a man. Of course it's your fault.

[tyler80]

If they were on a table your fault, but you say ledge so not sure without knowing exact setup

[stubbornhubby]

It's interesting that it is my fault.
In actual fact I reversed the story. It was my glasses that were lost and found
I guess that means either

• it was her fault OR
  
• it is always the man's fault
  

( Well done kreecher )

[StayingDavidTennantsGirl]

What about the people who said that it was six of one and half-a-dozen of the other, stubbornhubby?

[stubbornhubby]

Well, what about them ?

[NeverEvenHeardOfAgentZigzag]

Ah...well now...I did privately question your story when I read your DW went off to get a round in

[Baronetdawntigga]

YABU fix the problem not the blame.

She needs to let you know if she leaves something with you and you need to check.

FFSWhyDoPeopleAlwaysNeedSomeoneToBlameTiggaxx

[MumblingRagDoll]

DeWe what tosh! Men can run countries and orchestrate wars...they can flipping check to see if their wife left her glasses behind.

[NeverEvenHeardOfAgentZigzag]

(baronet and mumbling, stubborns wife didn't leave her glasses behind, stubborn did)

[KurriKurri]

The easy solution is to buy one of those strings and wear them round your neck. -Stylish and practical, and it won't make you look old

[MumblingRagDoll]

She left them behind when she went to the bar.

[FoundWanting]

I hate it when mummy and daddy Mr and Mrs Stubborn row.

I still think of the dining-table-and-relative-chair-height fracas.

[NeverEvenHeardOfAgentZigzag]

Mumbling - 'In actual fact I reversed the story. It was my glasses that were lost and found' from OPs 19.05 post.

I think the only way OP could get away with the glasses on a string thingy kurri, would be if he wore a thick ribbed jumper with leather elbow patches

[stubbornhubby]

Yes, I had left that in the car ... ;-)

[StayingDavidTennantsGirl]

What about the one's who have said it is six of one and half a dozen of the other, stubbornhubby? Well - you have used the ones that said it is all 'your' fault to prove (given that the story is reversed) that it is all your wife's fault. Why not look at the ones that say that the blame should be shared, and consider that you should accept some of the responsibility - otherwise it looks as if you are cherry-picking only the responses that will 'prove' or support your belief that it was all your wife's fault.

[diddl]

I think it was the responsibility of the person who moved from the ledge to the table to make sure that they had everything with them.

How could that be the responsibility of the person inside at the bar?