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To think you shouldn't correct an accent?

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Catsu Tue 14-Jun-11 21:20:48

Am disagreeing with dh over this.
We moved just before ds2 was born. Where we now live there is a regional accent different to how dh and I speak.
Ds2 is 3.5 yrs and is starting to pronounce words the local way. Dh keeps correcting him. I keep telling dh not to correct him.
Ds2 was born here, will grow up here and why wouldn't he speak with the local accent??

What do you think? Aibu or is dh?

Marne Tue 14-Jun-11 21:23:19

Dh IBU grin

One of dd's friends mum is always correcting her dd and mine and i hate it, you should be proud of who you are and where you are from/where you live.

greenbananas Tue 14-Jun-11 21:24:43

YANBU. Nothing wrong with accents.

The guidelines for schools used to be that children should be able to speak in'standard English' (i.e. not be restricted to using local dialect) and with clear pronunciation, but that any regional accent was okay so long as people could understand it.

MrsKravitz Tue 14-Jun-11 21:24:55

I have a friend who has corrected her child's accent and she now sounds affected and the other kids say she is "weird".

BitOfFun Tue 14-Jun-11 21:24:58

I think we need to know what the accent is to be on the safe side...

tabulahrasa Tue 14-Jun-11 21:25:03

It depends whether the accent means that he says words completely wrong, or whether it's just a twang.

I'd correct things like hoose instead of house, but not extra rrs in things - can you tell I'm in Scotland? lol

WhereYouLeftIt Tue 14-Jun-11 21:26:16

You DH IBU. I have a Scots accent, my son is and sounds English. I would never dream of trying to get him to speak like me (although he does occasionally put my accent on jokingly).

Oakmaiden Tue 14-Jun-11 21:26:19

I am with your dh, to be honest.

But then, my accent is fairly "received pronunciation" and we have just moved to Wales. Where they say "haitch" instead of "aitch". shock

So I DO correct my children (quietly, and when the locals aren't listening). grin

DogsBestFriend Tue 14-Jun-11 21:27:01

I know it's wrong and that I'm --probably)) unreasonable but I'm with your DH on this one.

We southerners lived in the far north when the DC were younger. I hated the accent and was forever saying, "No, it's WORRIED not WURRIED, DD".

We moved back to yhe south after a couple of years and boy was I glad to be home! DDs now speak as anyone else in this area does.

Catsu Tue 14-Jun-11 21:27:21

He says things like 'boike' instead of bike, it's a Suffolk accent!

ShowOfHands Tue 14-Jun-11 21:27:49

Depends on whether it's accent or dialect I think.

I grew up in Norfolk and my parents would not have allowed things like 'I hent' ('I haven't') or 'that be the roight one' as they're incorrect.

Oddly, I've grown up without an accent at all, my older brother speaks pure Norfolk.

Catsu Tue 14-Jun-11 21:29:21

Dh has a 'nice' southern accent. I'm a bit more London so drop a few 't's here and there smile

TattyDevine Tue 14-Jun-11 21:29:36

Haha I was going to say, depends on the accent... grin

ShowOfHands Tue 14-Jun-11 21:30:20

Actually, saying boike and loike and roight etc is a normal preschool phase and is to do with developing the skills to pronounce properly. Most children have a West Country (or Suffolk!) twang for a while and it's normal at 3 or 4 to hear it while they're learning how to use their mouths properly to make that particular sound. The thing to do is to repeat it back to them correctly ie 'yes ds, bike' and he'll probably stop doing it. If not, he's just picking up the local accent and there's nowt wrong wi' tha'.

Catsu Tue 14-Jun-11 21:32:12

We had a v similar disagreement with ds1 who is left handed. Dh wanted to discourage the left handed ness for ds's benefit as being right handed will be easier for him later on in life.
I said no way, his natural instinct is left handed and do that's what he will be.
I won that one without too much effort.

The accent one is dragging on a bit longer!

WorzselMummage Tue 14-Jun-11 21:32:29

You would probably agree with your DH if you lived in 'the heart of the black country' like I do.

I correct my DD when she picks up ridiculous local mispronunciations like calling a bus a buz because, if I didn't she would have the piss taken out of her for the rest of her life.

A slight twang is lovely.. full on yampyness is not.

whackamole Tue 14-Jun-11 21:32:54

I'm from daahhhhnnn saaahhhff and live in Liverpool now with my Scouse OH. I couldn't care less what accent my boys pick up, but I will be correcting 'haitch' wink

kitkatya Tue 14-Jun-11 21:33:04

boike is cute smile

I get more annoyed when people try and make their children speak like the queen, even though they have regional accent themselves. Theres nowt wrong with a lilt, I dont think. Its nice.

ScarletOHaHa Tue 14-Jun-11 21:33:41

YANBU. I do not correct my DS. He has a scouse accent even though he was born in the Midlands and has been in nursery for 4 years, since he was 6 months old. I do not correct his speech - he says boike sometimes too. I have asked nursery not to correct his scouse accent.

JumpOnIt Tue 14-Jun-11 21:33:45

I am English and my DD is broad East Coast Scotland. I wouldn't ever correct her accent - it would sound odd! I used to correct her grammar but it made her cry. I can't bear her saying that she has "been given in to trouble". I've wound my neck in a bit now. One day I'll beat it into her. When she's older!!!

ScarletOHaHa Tue 14-Jun-11 21:35:11

Worzsel loving the yampyness grin

Oblomov Tue 14-Jun-11 21:35:47

Where are you OP ? Because, seriously. I think it depends on how strong the accent is. If you have a very strong brummie accent, devon accent, kent accent, it seriously makes a difference. lets not kid ourselves otherwise.

CurrySpice Tue 14-Jun-11 21:37:52

I am from the Black Country but live in Essex

The only things I "correct" are grammatical. Eg "we was going to the shops" is very common here and annoys me

I also correct tropped 'Ts" in wods like naughty and butter

I also correct them when they say "f" instead of "th" eg thirty three pence instead of firty free pence

Is that wrong blush?

Other than that I leave them to it - I certainly don't "correct" accent pronunciation and also object when they try and "correct" mine!! ("Mom it's pronounced barth not bath" <rolls eyes>)

WorzselMummage Tue 14-Jun-11 21:39:12

It is Barth though grin

mrsbabookaloo Tue 14-Jun-11 21:39:46

Catsu, regarding your DH discouraging left handedness, can I just say shock.

Is he like, 900 years old? It's a slight inconvenience that I'm crap at using scissors, but really there's no disadvantage to being left-handed, just a sense of smug superiority and otherness!

And he's wrong on the accent thing too, and fighting a losing battle. DH is American, and I am northern, and we are set to have a pair of daughters with real London accents!

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