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bentpenny Tue 14-Jun-11 19:26:54

Just a quick one but my youngest ds had the most almighty tantrum today on the school run and one mum actually stood watching and smirking like it was some kind of spectator sport. Another one of the school run charmers shook her head and tutted. It's amazing what bitches women can be when we all know how hard it can be.

Another woman today gave me a long lecture with top tips and advice about how to pooty train my youngest. She has 1 child.

Ok, thats it -rant over. But do you ever get the feeling that some women think that anything more than 2 dc's with 5 years apart and a nanny is frankly a despicable thing to do. smile

janajos Tue 14-Jun-11 19:27:43

How many do you have?

janajos Tue 14-Jun-11 19:28:12

And do you have a nanny?

BitOfFun Tue 14-Jun-11 19:28:20

I'm not sure I understand what you are getting at, sorry. Maybe it's the random smile at the end?

janajos Tue 14-Jun-11 19:28:48

Glad I'm not the only one confused!

Pandemoniaa Tue 14-Jun-11 19:29:23

I think you must be seriously struggling with that chip on your shoulder. Would more ketchup help?

Mumcentreplus Tue 14-Jun-11 19:29:30

Rise above it like an eagle <<does eagle arms>>

Flisspaps Tue 14-Jun-11 19:29:32

Just because you have more than one child doesn't make you a parenting expert - perhaps the 'lecturing' woman thought she was being friendly and helpful, and perhaps the tut and head shaking was meant in a sisterly 'I remember those days' kind of way.

grin at pooty train though wink

HelloOutThere Tue 14-Jun-11 19:29:45

ah dont worry their time will come grin i remember preening with dd1 at her beautiful manners, behaviour, sweet smile.

Then i had dd2..............................

Choufleur Tue 14-Jun-11 19:29:49

Why just people with less children? If they have more than you but are still rude/annoying is that ok?

fedupofnamechanging Tue 14-Jun-11 19:32:13

When she was lecturing you, did you say that you have older DC and know how to potty train? If you just stood there and let her lecture you, then you are responsible too, for how that conversation turned out.

As for the judgy women watching your toddler have a tantrum, they can look smug now, but the time will come when it's their child having a strop in the street.

Mumcentreplus Tue 14-Jun-11 19:33:48

I think OP just wants to rant...and I for one have utmost respect for anyone with more than 2 children.

tut and head shaking does not sound friendly and I don't even know these people I think OP does though...

<<passes round chill pills & chocolate>>

Mumcentreplus Tue 14-Jun-11 19:35:24

karma has no one caught you off guard before?... that's why OP is pissed off

TakeMeDrunkImHome Tue 14-Jun-11 19:36:21

This kind of attitude really aggravates me. The ability to have more unprotected sex than the next person does NOT make you a better parent. See Jeremy Kyle show for evidence.

diabolo Tue 14-Jun-11 19:37:29

Who has got the nanny? confused

jzhmum Tue 14-Jun-11 19:37:34

i have 4 and still have no clue what i am doing so take anyones advice! smile

RockStockAndTwoOpenBottles Tue 14-Jun-11 19:37:56

I sort of understand where you're coming from OP. I have four children, the oldest of whom is almost 18. There is a 12 year gap between DC3 and DC4 and I have lost count of the times that people have said to me 'oh, just you wait 'til she's 5/9/14 etc' - I smile sweetly and walk on. They are not to know that I kind of have a clue as to what to expect with each and every year grin

Comfort yourself with the knowledge that they too will also have shitty moments.

Mumcentreplus Tue 14-Jun-11 19:38:22

wow! your'e a real sweetie aren't you Take

Fifis25StottieCakes Tue 14-Jun-11 19:38:42

grin @ hello, Thats what i thought till i had DD3.

CrapolaDeVille Tue 14-Jun-11 19:41:47

One of my dcs walked at 20 mths, the sibling before her 19 and before that 16mths.... I gave up going to playgroups because I couldn;t take another head tilting...'she'll do it in her own time' 'don't worry they're all different' from people who had one child!!!

OP I understand.

Stase Tue 14-Jun-11 19:42:19

Isn't the point that the OP has been tutted at by fellow parents who should know better?
When one of mine is having a public strop (rarer these days, thankfully) and someone seemed to be judging when I already felt self-conscious it would make me feel ten times worse! But don't all kids do it? I think the best response when you witness a kid acting up in public is to give them some room and mind your own business. Then come and start a judgey thread on MN later if you really must!

BelfastBloke Tue 14-Jun-11 19:42:21

BoF "I'm not sure I understand what you are getting at, sorry. Maybe it's the random smile at the end?"


pyjamababe Tue 14-Jun-11 19:42:49

Personally I get more annoyed by people who think they can patronise you just because they have more children... Some people just LOVE to say 'ooh wait until you have two!' - what if you can't have two? Sorry for the tangent but it makes me cross!

<gratefully accepts chill pill from mumcentreplus and ... breathes>

bentpenny Tue 14-Jun-11 19:43:28

mumcentreplus, yes you are right i just wanted a little rant. The smile was to signify the satisfaction of getting it off my chest. I have 3 dc's janajo's, no nanny and dh who works away. Pandemonia - i am very happy with my lot thanks so no ketchup required. I just had a trying day today, thats all.

MoreCrackThanHarlem Tue 14-Jun-11 19:44:46

Laughing at a stressed out woman struggling with a toddler tantrum is a bit mean

Offering advice is fine though
I'm not sure about your attitude ie you can't tell me anything I've got 643 kids

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