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to tell someone their kids can't walk across my garden?

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grumpypants Tue 14-Jun-11 09:19:29

bit confused really. just went outside for the bins, and found two small girls cutting the corner off by walking across our pebbles. (we are a corner house, large garden at front/side, pavement beside it). I smiled, and said ooh no, you can't do that, then realised mum was there - she told me yes, it was quicker! So i kind of explained that no, i didn't want kids trekking across my garden.
it messes them all up, they have to walk right next to my front door and flowerbed to come out the other side, risking treading all over the new plants - i'm so shock any parent would say it's fine.

Hammy02 Tue 14-Jun-11 09:21:46

YANBU. That mother is hardly teaching her children to respect other people's property. They are trespassing.

GrimmaTheNome Tue 14-Jun-11 09:22:26

YANBU. Kids should know to keep on the pavement and so should the mum.

Groovee Tue 14-Jun-11 09:22:32

We had this issue when we moved here and the previous owner had removed some spars in the fence to allow her and others to nip up the embankment to the main road. Loads of school kids used it too. I came home shortly after moving in to find 3 teen girls wandering the front garden having been unable to find the fence gap which the previous owner had replaced as she moved out.

I didn't want people doing that and hence why I chased anyone from my garden who I found there.

virginiasmonalogue Tue 14-Jun-11 09:22:52

YANBU! I would never let my kids walk on others property. Plain rude!!

Numberfour Tue 14-Jun-11 09:23:01

YANBU at all.

silverten Tue 14-Jun-11 09:23:26

you sound perfectly reasonable to me. its not as if you shouted at them or anything!

grumpypants Tue 14-Jun-11 09:24:35

groovee glad i'm not the only territorial one! i hate looking out the sitting room window to see someone peering back in (we put that fablon stuff half way up the windows in the end) - just amazed that she thought this was okay, and what a cow i was!

MoonGirl1981 Tue 14-Jun-11 09:24:53

Oooooo, I hate that!

Some kids at school walk the whole way along the street on people's gardens. There's a wall bit, hard to explain but it involves trekking over a fair few gardens.

The parents don't seem top notice/care.

I think it's rude and wouldn't allow it.

Could you put up a fence?

grumpypants Tue 14-Jun-11 09:26:08

no, no shouting, kind of nice 'oooh, you've been caught!' looked at the mum thinking she'd apologise and then she started telling me why they could do it!
It's not a couple of steps either, much quicker to whizz round the pavement, i suspect the crunching of stones is more fun tho. (Tough)

grumpypants Tue 14-Jun-11 09:26:50

not allowed a fence that comes in front of the house iyswim?

BsshBossh Tue 14-Jun-11 09:27:23

YANBU. Time to put some fencing/hedging system up I think as I doubt you will ever be able to stop people cutting corners on your property otherwise.

Hammy02 Tue 14-Jun-11 09:27:35

I don't think it's territorial. How would the mum like it if you walked through her living room? Or her kid's bedrooms. V.odd behaviour to walk on someone's property.

grumpypants Tue 14-Jun-11 09:29:57

around the edge we have we have driveway, large lavender bushes ending in a flower bed which goes up to the front door, driveway so a kind of L shaped. They start at one driveway, and come out by the front door, and then walk down the second drive.

GrimmaTheNome Tue 14-Jun-11 09:31:55

Maybe you could plant some bushes or position pots/stones at the points where people are most likely to cut the corner?

MoonGirl1981 Tue 14-Jun-11 09:33:03

Could you get a sprinkler system?

Just have it on in the mornings?

Water your pebbles!!

AKMD Tue 14-Jun-11 09:33:20

I asked two school children to get out of my garden the other day as the mum walked blithely on. I thought they were being incredibly rude so YANBU.

blackeyedsusan Tue 14-Jun-11 09:34:33

ds has tried to stick one toe on the step of someones garden, to be told loudly, no not yours...

AnonymousBird Tue 14-Jun-11 09:37:26

Can you put up a small/cheap barrier temporarily just to reinforce your message?

YADNBU! I would be furious!

MissingMySleep Tue 14-Jun-11 09:37:45


block it off even if its temporary, and people will get out of the habit of cutting through

or put up something permanent, fences etc

my mum has something similar so she is planting some bushes etc to make it clearer that this is garden not public pavement etc

BsshBossh Tue 14-Jun-11 09:38:50

Plant some prickly rambling rose bushes grin.

diddl Tue 14-Jun-11 09:39:13


MrsTwinks Tue 14-Jun-11 09:39:19

Get a sprinkler system with a remote and sit and watch for them walking.. or is that too mean?

nethunsreject Tue 14-Jun-11 09:39:56

Yanbu at all.

onclefestere Tue 14-Jun-11 09:40:18

pepper spray....? <joke>
No, YANBU. Very rude way to behave.

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