DS is 7yo. Since September he has lost a jumper, few socks etc, nothing I would not call normal
That was until 2 months ago, his whole PE bag vanished. He went to lost property, changing rooms etc to look for it. Nothing. It was a Doctor Who backpack, with his name clearly written on inside of it, its contents were a man utd top [this seasons] and a pair of ordinary shorts. I thought a child with a similar bag had picked it up, and once his/her mum checked bag/washed PE kit, she would realize, and send it back in
This never happened, and seems bag has disappeared off the face of the earth
As DS has dyspraxia [forgetfulness, lack of organisational skills] and the bag had not been returned, I thought he had mislaid it
Until last Thrusday, DS has PE again, this time he came home with his bag [had bought him a new one]. Pulled it out to wash, had his shorts in, and missing was a Welsh rugby shit [this seasons again]
His auntie works at the school, so she helped DS look in the lost property, for the shirt, again nothing
I can not help thinking he stuff is being stolen
I have phoned the school, they were going to have a good look tonight, and send a letter home with DS tomorrow as to whether they found anything.
Im assuming after they do not find anything [I know they wont, because auntie has throughly checked], they are going to send me a note of no they can not find it. And that will be the end of it
Which if Im honest Im not happy about!!!!
Anyone else had any dealings of this sort?
AIBU?
I think someone is stealing my sons PE kit in school
welshbyrd · 13/06/2011 18:48
My ds1's summer coat went missing when he was in year 1, it wasn't particularly expensive, but was unusual and unlikely anyone else would have had the same one. Teacher asked everyone to check they hadn't taken it home by mistake, helped him check lost property in infants and juniors and searched the classrooms and cloakrooms. No joy.
At the beginning of this year, bearing in mind ds1 is now in year 4, his younger brother came home with the missing coat! 
Turns out it had been shoved behind some storage boxes in a part of the school pupils aren't usually allowed in (storage area) and was found when they started renovation/building works.
There's no way ds could have 'accidentally' left it there, so I'm assuming it was most likely stolen and hidden by the same bullies that were bullying him back in year 1 and in actual fact still are. 
Both boys now get bog standard, plain black rain coats and nothing we or he has any attachment to, or was expensive is ever taken to school.
Jeez moosemama - really sorry about your son being bullied, must be horrendous for him and yourself, for 3 years too. 
Tbh this is partly the reason DS has this seasons bits and bobs, he has Dyspraxia, and can not spell even his surname, as he is a junior now, its only a matter of time, for the other children to realize there is something different about DS, by trying to keep him in the latests kit/coats/bags/shoes im hoping to avoid the obvious, and make him appear like everyone else
Im dreading secondary school
God hope im not going to be flamed for this now
DC used to lose plain white t-shirts, too. Until I used permanent marker to write our surname on the outside of the collar. Haven't had any losses since 
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Is it too deeply uncool to send in cool but slightly dated kit, say several years old that you picked up for 50p at a carboot? Still trendyish, but not too desirable.
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Thanks for all the replies, they have seemed to make me less angry.
A friend at the school this morning suggested having DSs name printed on back of his football tops etc, he has a very unusual name so its less likely to be lost/stolen
Stilled stunned though, that a whole bag and contents have been missing for months, and still have not turned up 
I'd suggest sending him in with plain white T shirt and black shorts and see if that goes missing. Surely not a good idea to send in expensive stuff anyway?
I agree!
I have had ds's school jumpers missing and I have ransacked the school looking for them - given up and bought new - only to find on the last day of term they miraculously turned up on the lost property table 
God only knows which school cupboard they'd been poked in to!
I use a SHARPIE marker pen and write his name on the inside of the collars now - this has cut down on things being lost.
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Thanks welshbyrd, my ds has Aspergers and unfortunately the bullies noticed this fact well before I managed to get the school to recognise it. It has been dealt with a few times and the worst perpertrator has now stopped - thank goodness, but it seems to move in cycles with one particular child (who has his own problems and uses bullying ds to make himself feel better). We are on a good patch at the moment after a recent formal complaint and hoping that will be the end of it.
Ds was assessed for dyspraxia, but tested on the cut off point for getting a diagnosis. He is spectacularly good at 'forgetting' where he left things, but there was no way his coat could have just been lost, given where it was found in the end.
I do understand your need to do everything you can to help your ds fit in, we feel the same. Fortunately our school has a very strict uniform, that stipulates plain black shorts, plain white tshirt, and plain black joggers and sweat top for PE. Even with that, there is still scope for competition with trainers, but we've made a point of not buying into that one, as whatever you buy it'll be out of fashion in a matter of weeks. I just try to make sure I buy his clothes from somewhere 'acceptable' but not uber trendy, like Next or M&S, most of the other children's clothes come from similar stores, so then there's nothing that marks him out as visibly different. Is there no uniform at your ds's school then? That does make it much harder.
With ds, we've found it helps to sign him up for things like the Lego club that others in his year are also signed up for, so they have something in common to chat about - likewise with certain Nintendo Ds games etc (although we only allow age appropriate ones, despite some of his peers having much older games). It doesn't help that he has absolutely no interest in football though, as most of his peers are following a team. We try to keep abreast of whatever he tells us is the 'thing' in the playground and the moment and consider how we can help him use that to blend in a bit more - eg he's never actually watched Dr Who or Star Wars, as he has a TV and Film phobia, but he's read magazines and books about them and knows enough to chat with his peers about the plot and characters etc. All he boys were really into the Beano for a long time, so we bought him a subscription for his birthday and that worked well too. Being into computer games really helps a lot, as its his obsessional topic, so the others actually come to him for advice on them. We've also done all the top trumps and gogo crazy bones crazes as well over the years.
It does seem a bit odd that the whole bag has gone missing - but I've lost count of the the number of times I've asked ds to check lost property, only for him to swear he's done it and it wasn't there, but then have found the missing item myself at the end of term when they put the tables out. Everything is labelled, but the school have a policy on putting everything straight into lost property, even if they know the child it belongs to. I have been known to go to the office and ask if I could go through the lost property bins myself - would that be worth a try?
Ds2 was insistent last Friday that his jumper had gone missing off his peg - I found it screwed up in the bottom of his bag on Monday morning.
From my experience so far, boys are less competitive about clothes etc than girls - I'm dreading it when dd starts school.
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