Oh my lord ..... not boarding school - they are very quick to exclude - I'd call the army recruitment hotline .......... Let DS try to be an arse there !!!
Seriously though (lots and lots of hugs) tell him. Tell him exactly what you think of his behaviour. Infact (depending on his age) I would go into full mum-meltdown right in front of him and tell him you are tempted to march him back into school and go into full-blown-mum-meltdown in front of his mates, teachers, headteacher ..... everyone - if he chooses to be an arse (and I am guessing there is no underlying condition that is effecting his behaviour) that if it ok for him to behave like this then surely it is ok for you to do so too - remember the look of shock on the kids face on advert when kid starts to go into melt down in supermarket and mum joins in - sometimes shock tactics work ......
PS - kick the sofa and not the wall - it hurts less. PPS - shut the cat outside incase you are tempted to kick it too. PPPS - dont shut the husband outside - it is 50% his fault anyway. PPPPS - If husband / father of DS is not on the scene go and find him and kick him anyway - it is still 50% his fault.
Indigo, I know and right now I have the emotional maturity of a 3yr old, I am having a bad day anyway and then this on top and pushed me over the edge. Along with him now standing in the kitchen shouting "Don't hit me please dont hit me"
Mine knows right from wrong too but has less ability to act on it than other kids his age - I frequently forget this when he is behaving like an arse then later I feel really bad for ranting at him. Mind you I have been known to throw several spectacular tantrums myself !!!!!!!!
I am fine tonight, I calmed down when he eventually shutup stopped moaning and blaming me about 9pm.
I have to be at the school by 9.30 thursday morning for a meeting about this incident. I also got his senco report which basically said they are going to supply him with "social stories" and for me to buy him a book called "A 5 could make me".
I have to say whilst I am not defending his actions because he should not be behaving this way, I don't feel the school are doing enough for him but I dont know what to ask for <sigh>