I am having a rant a strop a hissy fit a melt down and a tantrum all rolled into one and I don't care who knows it!!!"

[TheLadyEvenstar]

because ds1 has gone and got himself excluded from school AGAIN for acting a prat, this time throwing a kid against the lockers in a fucking game and the kid doing it in the same fucking idiotic game


WHY WHY WHY WHY WHY I am fucking furious that he has been such an arse.

[MrsReasonable]

I blame the parents.

[IndigoBell]

:(

Hope things in some way get sorted out properly.....

[TheLadyEvenstar]

Mrs grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[TheLadyEvenstar]

Indigo, you and me both - boot camp boarding school looks promising now

[IndigoBell]

Ooooooooh. Boarding school. What a fantastic idea.

One a long way away so he can't come home at weekends?

[runningonmt]

Oh my lord ..... not boarding school - they are very quick to exclude - I'd call the army recruitment hotline .......... Let DS try to be an arse there !!!

Seriously though (lots and lots of hugs) tell him. Tell him exactly what you think of his behaviour. Infact (depending on his age) I would go into full mum-meltdown right in front of him and tell him you are tempted to march him back into school and go into full-blown-mum-meltdown in front of his mates, teachers, headteacher ..... everyone - if he chooses to be an arse (and I am guessing there is no underlying condition that is effecting his behaviour) that if it ok for him to behave like this then surely it is ok for you to do so too - remember the look of shock on the kids face on advert when kid starts to go into melt down in supermarket and mum joins in - sometimes shock tactics work ......

PS - kick the sofa and not the wall - it hurts less.
PPS - shut the cat outside incase you are tempted to kick it too.
PPPS - dont shut the husband outside - it is 50% his fault anyway.
PPPPS - If husband / father of DS is not on the scene go and find him and kick him anyway - it is still 50% his fault.

[LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726]

Sorry OP... that's awful for you. I have no idea what you're supposed to do.

If it were me, I'd probably have my giant tantrum and then think of ways to let DS know exactly how much he has incurred my displeasure.... "Consequences" would be my new watchword.

No help at all, but sorry, any of us could be there at any time.

[TheLadyEvenstar]

I am still having a meltdown I am having a prolonged tantrum and shall continue to do so.

[piprabbit]

Are you actually laying on the floor and drumming your heels?

[TheLadyEvenstar]

Pip, no but i could easily!!!!

I am just so pissed off with this attitude he has. Surely other DC with AS can go a day in school wthout being in trouble

[runningonmt]

sorry TheLady didnt realise the AS dx.

Extra hugs coming your way xxxx

[piprabbit]

Sounds like you (and your DS) are having a horrible time at the moment.
How long has he been excluded for?

[TheLadyEvenstar]

Running, its ok I tend not to blame his behaviour on the AS. Because he does know right from wrong.

[IndigoBell]

He knows right from young, but has the emotional maturity of a much younger kid, with the body of a teenager :(

[TheLadyEvenstar]

Indigo, I know and right now I have the emotional maturity of a 3yr old, I am having a bad day anyway and then this on top and pushed me over the edge. Along with him now standing in the kitchen shouting "Don't hit me please dont hit me"

[IndigoBell]

My DS locked himself in the bathroom and shouted that through the door to his SENCO. For an hour. For weeks I was scared she was going to report me to someone....

[TheLadyEvenstar]

Indigo thats how I am feeling....I wouldn't mind if i did hit him fgs!

[runningonmt]

Mine knows right from wrong too but has less ability to act on it than other kids his age - I frequently forget this when he is behaving like an arse then later I feel really bad for ranting at him. Mind you I have been known to throw several spectacular tantrums myself !!!!!!!!

[LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726]

How are you tonight, LadyEvenstar?

[TheLadyEvenstar]

I am fine tonight, I calmed down when he eventually shutup stopped moaning and blaming me about 9pm.

I have to be at the school by 9.30 thursday morning for a meeting about this incident. I also got his senco report which basically said they are going to supply him with "social stories" and for me to buy him a book called "A 5 could make me".

I have to say whilst I am not defending his actions because he should not be behaving this way, I don't feel the school are doing enough for him but I dont know what to ask for

[TheLadyEvenstar]

I have just got back from the meeting and he deserves to be excluded!!!!

[mistlethrush]

I'm sorry TLE - have they suggested any ways in which you and they can work together to make sure this doesn't happen again?

[IndigoBell]

:(

Why does he deserve to be excluded?

What support are they going to give him to make sure this doesn't happen again?

[TheLadyEvenstar]

He deserves to be excluded because he was throwign another child against the lockers and then onto the floor. He is to go back to school on Monday at 11am AFTER yet another appt.

They are offering nothing as I have been told they cannot get funding for statementing him as he is not educationally needy and it is his behaviour that is causing the problems.

They are as usual looking for me to give them the answers.

[IndigoBell]

1. Apply for a statement yourself. Today. Statements are not just for kids who are academically behind (in fact they're normally not for kids who are academically behind.)
   

1. Ring up Parent Partnership, and see whether they can help you. They will know what team the school should be getting advice from - probably the ASD support team......
   

1. Email them the minutes of the meeting you just had where they say they don't know what to do with him......