has a conviction for drink driving (years ago), still drinks and drives, often. Came to stay with us at our holiday home during easter and one day took his family (3 dc and a family friend, aged 10) out with his wife. Came back very, very drunk. His 14 year old was also very drunk - literally legless.
My DH (his brother) completely agrees and says he has lost a great deal of respect for his brother. We have also decided that our children will not stay at their house as they are prolific chain smokers who smoke in their house, children present or not, my 5 year old says he hates the way they smell and wont eat their food.
It is their life and they can do whatever they wish but I am not exposing my children to that. I would not expose myself to it.
The problem is most of of my in-laws think I'm being unreasonable. Going as far as to suggest that I'm breaking the family apart by not allowing my children to stay with BIL and his family. This is not true. I want my children to grow up with their cousins, I have a open house policy where any of our loved ones can visit/stay whenever they want. No notice required if they are family. However, my instincts suggest that my dc will not be safe with BIL. I cannot ignore that.
Now, I know I can seem like a bit of a judgy cow to some people, but I am not. I don't really care what people do as long as it does not impact my dc or husband. I don't care what my ILs think of me but I do care that my dc's relationship with one side of the family is seriously suffering.
I don't know what to do about that. Any suggestions please or
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ihateclowns · 12/06/2011 20:59
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