To worry about something that may not have happened?

[Wiggy29]

My son (6) was at a friend's house for tea recently. Apparently they played beautifully but towards the end there was a scuffle which ended in the other boy crying. I've asked my son and he admitted they'd been shutting each other in the cupboard and ended up 'wrestling'. My concern is that the mum said my son held her son's nose. I've asked him and although he admits to everything else he's adamant this never happened. We've had a chat and explained how dangerous that would be (although he still denied it). The boy is coming for tea at our house this week (so mum isn't too concerned) but I'm still worrying about this. Should I be concerned? I'm still streesing as recently he has done a couple of things that are out of character and wonder where/ who it's coming from.

[RevoltingPeasant]

Have any of these out of character things involved not telling the truth? In which case, YANBU.

But don't know what you can do, other than keep an eye on him.

[Wiggy29]

Sorry, what does YANBU mean (I'm a newbie on here). Other things were:

1. Calling another child a 'dck'. He shouted "Wait for me dck!" at him (needless to that isn't the other boys name). I was there at the time and when I asked him about it he didn't know what it meant or where he'd heard it and said he thought he'd just 'made it up' (?) Just said it was rude&didn't want to hear it again.
   
2. He bit a boy at school (was provoked but obviously not excusable). He didn't tell me but had letter from headteacher and as soons as I asked if he had anything to tell me he fessed up, also the school said he was immediatly apologetic and admitted it straight away.
   

I'm just concerned as these are all really out of character for him. He certainly doesn't act like this at home! : (

[southeastastra]

you are pointing on aibu and don't know what yanbu is?

[southeastastra]

pointing? posting obviously, please can we have an edit thingy

[squeakytoy]

It "may" not have happened, but given the second post and what "has" already happened, it does sound like it is likely to be true.

Sounds like he needs a very stern talking to. It is probably just normal 6yo boisterousness that needs reigning in sharpish.

[lovemyskinnyjeans]

It means You Are Not Being Unreasonable

[Wiggy29]

Just looked them up southeastastra, as I said, I'm new to this.

I've had the stern words. For this incident at school there were letters of apology and things he enjoys taken away for 2 weeks.

I'll defo be keeping a close eye on him wheen the other boy is over. It's frustrating that these things happen when you're not there- I would like to think he's been raised better than that! He is normally a loving, considerate boy who shares with others and has lots of friends. Do you think he's just pushing the boundaries?

[squeakytoy]

Probably just pushing boundaries, yes. I am sure all kids do at this age, hopefully it wont take too much for him to realise the error of his ways and get back to normal.

[Wiggy29]

Phew- nice to hear you say that. It was just the nose holding thing- very dangerous but was worried about where he even got the idea from. Thanks again.x