You propose making him sleep on the sofa and locking him out of the bedroom? Seriously, if you can't come to an agreement over something without resorting to that sort of thing, you dont have much of a relationship
"Talking hasn't worked I'm reduced to thinking up some kind of sanction." Ah, sorry - i thought you were talking about your husband but you are clearly talking about your teenage son
My DP is generally a lazy arse when it comes to housework, im a bit slovenly as well but i do the lionshare, i am a SAHM though and he works long hours - no fecking excuse in the weekend though. I coudlnt make him sleep on the sofa though as I can't sleep without him in bed with me, to the extent that i will wait for him to go to bed before i go else i wont sleep - [wuss]
stuckinthemiddle I had a long time in counselling and my counsellor was always going on about the roles we take in life. You are being critical parent and your DP is being naughty child. Your constant "nagging" is fascilitating his childish behaviour. Yeah yeah, i thought it was bollocks too, but it is self perpetuating. You both need to be in adult mode. So dont fall into the old cycle of nagging. Don't be unpleasant but just don't do things for him that he has come to take for granted and then when he moans about it, roll out the critical parentnaughty childadult speech and ask him where he thinks you both want to be - let him take responsibility for himself and stop trying to nag him into it as i suspect he is a stubborn fuck and wont budge an inch. You dont want to be in a cold bed all by yourself!