We are making her tidy her room, when all dd2 has to do is pick up some toys in the living room and then she can sit down on the couch.
DD2 is 4, dd1 is almost 8.
She also thinks it is unfair that she gets asked to go to the shop sometimes and dd2 does not. I ahve explained that this is becasue she is older and when she was four she was not expected to do as much as she is now her answer "It's not my fault I grew up, I bet other mams and dads don't make their kids do more just because they grew up"
So do you make your kids do more because they have grew up?
As an aside dd2 is sat on the sofa watching TV because she put the toys away when she was asked and has now finished. DD1 has spent the last two hours channelling her energies into screaming, crying and backchatting and still has her room to clean.
AIBU?
Dd1 want to ask you if we (me and DH) are being unreasonable
DooinMeCleanin · 12/06/2011 14:49
Seriously? She asked you to start a thread asking other parents how they parent?
Tell the little madam to go and clean her room 
She wanted me to find out if other kids have to do more than their youger siblings just because and I quote "They had the audacity to grow older" . She was allowed to stop for a snack and this is when she asked. She has now been sent to back to her room to and again I quote "Cry because it's not fair" 
I have once again explained that if she put as much energy into cleaning as she does crying and arguing she would have been finished by now.
She has given in and is cleaning now. She just brought down a few cups, but made of point of telling us one of them was dd2's
DS1 is 9. He spent the whole morning 'tidying his room' while playing on his computer. Its still not tidy but plenty of back chat happened.
Heh - I only have 1 DS and he has to tidy his own toys away, he's only 3.6.
But I have siblings who are 4y younger than me and when we were small, I was made to do more stuff to help than they were, just because I was the oldest. In fact, I had to look after them sometimes - and I had been going to the shop by myself since I was about 5 (it was about 100m up the road and we're talking a few decades ago) - it was one of my privileges to go! By the time I was 8, I had to take my siblings with me
Your DD needs to get over this fairly soon - there's going to be a lot more "unfairness" coming her way - she's the "groundbreaker", so will go to bed earlier than her sister, because her sister will get to stay up later than DD1 did when she was the same age. DD1 will do all the fighting for privileges as a teen and DD2 will just swan along and reap the rewards, usually about 2y earlier than DD1 managed it.
Yes, I'm projecting - can you tell??
why shouldn't an 8 year old be going to the shops?
I used to be sent down to the shops aged about 5, with a note and money in an envelope
how can you say, as a blanket rule, that 8 year olds should not be going to the shops? without knowing location, proximity of shop, what the 8 year old is like (other than not wanting to tidy her room!) etc. what an odd notion.
Your DD1 sounds a lot like my DD! Shes allowed the responsibility of going to the shops alone and walking to school alone at 8 but still doesn't feel its her responsibility to clean her room but you try telling her you're walking her to school and she has a meltdown
yes, can't see what the fuss is about her going to the shop a few metres down the road at 8
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