AIBU?!

[SoEmbarassed]

Hi

Name changed for something embarassing in health now keeping this in case I'm identified here.

AIBU to exepct a BBQ when I'm invited to one? One of my friends held one a couple of weeks ago. I'd been invited with my DH and DC's several weeks in advance and the invite and reminder made it clear it was a BBQ. Perfect for them. They love them, they love the food, they will happily munch on chicken drumsticks, sausages, burgers etc... anything thrown on the BBQ.

We decided to get the train. She lives a long way from us. We spend over £100 on train tickets for 4 people. We get there for lunchtime as asked, nothing is ready and food doesn't happen until after 3pm and there is no BQ. It's standing there but not used. What we got was a cold buffet with food that would be tricky for many young DC's to like. There was virtually no meat which would be fine but the veg options were a bit much. A huge veggie stew, cold omelettes full of a medley of vegetables, cold rice, salad, cold everything, the only meat to speak was very heavily cured ham and it had been hand cut so it was very thick and my younger DC couldn't even chew it and spat it out. They were raised with manners so neither of them said a word at lunch. They just tried a bit of everything but didn't eat much and I ate some of it for them when they didn't want it so as not to waste the food. They just munched on the bits of bread there.

It was fine they had a good day but I didn't apprecaite the 2 hour train ride home a few hours later later with my youngest DC in particular who half way thru the journey starts whining and then crying with hunger. If I'd known I would have brought some food for my DC's with me but I thought they'd be stuffed after the BBQ and sleep it off.

Please tell me if you think I'm being ungrateful but I just thought that if I'm invited to a garden BBQ there would actually be one.

[pumpernickel10]

Your being ungrateful she still provided you with food and your DC enjoyed it what's the problem?

[pumpernickel10]

If it was that far why the hell did you go?
Free food?

[Hullygully]

I find it a bit odd that you minded missing out on a bit of sausage.

[SoEmbarassed]

"Your being ungrateful"

You're being ungrateful rather

They certainly didn't enjoy not having anything to eat. But I know for next time.

They don't have children so perhaps don't get what very young children can eat.

[pumpernickel10]

I knew our hully would say that ;)

[likingthespring]

I think YUBU. Surely you went for the company not just the food? It's not like you weren't fed - sounds like a nice spread actually!

[SoEmbarassed]

OK ok fine. I'm being ungrateful I accept that. Thank you.

Now get off you're high horses don't start a flaming with several massively bitchy comments that you all love to throw at people as I've accepted it.

[pumpernickel10]

Some people are so damn picky I'm suprised you didn't ask her to reimburse you for the train fare as there was no burgers

[Mabelface]

I don't see anything wrong with that food. My kids would have eaten that and wolfed down veggie stew.

[FabbyChic]

She thought she was going somewhere where there would be food for her children to eat, she got there there wasnt! Give the OP a break.

[LineRunner]

I can't see any good coming out of this post.

I see flames licking higher and higher.

[Hullygully]

I am nothing if not reliable, Pumpy

[pumpernickel10]

Dont post in AIBU if you don't want bitchy
You sound bitchy yourself op bitchy and ungrateful

[methodsandmaterials]

There's nothing on that list that a young child wouldn't eat.

[pumpernickel10]

fabby food was there

[worraliberty]

What did they say when you asked them why they cancelled the BBQ?

[thighslapper]

well, its not what you expected and not what was arranged and with small children you do kinda think around their needs naturally.

I would be a bit disapointed but would have made the best of it tbh, there was bound to be something for them to eat out of what was offered.

Fair is fair, they made quite some effort, hand carved ham etc, they just didnt provide BBQ food.

I wouldnt fall out with folk over something like this though.

[SoEmbarassed]

Ok fine. The food was fine for me to eat but not for young children which mine are.

If AIBU is bitchiness galore Piupernickel and I shouldn't post here if I don't want it. I'll join in and tell you not to post here again either until you understand primary school grammar and the difference between your and you're.

[PaisleyLeaf]

There was food. Just that the OP and her DCs didn't like it.

[pumpernickel10]

Weather could have been shite or BBQ could have broken I've had that before it seems your host still made a massive effort for you all

[DoMeDon]

YANBU - wasn't what it said on the tin. You went a long way and your expetations were not met. Cold veggie stew , hot sausage

[thelittlefriend]

for what it's worth op, i'd be a bit annoyed about it. Kids can be hard work when they've not eaten. However, if I was planning a bbq, then changed my mind and did a cold buffet, I don't think I'd bother letting the guests know.

[DoMeDon]

typos

[SoEmbarassed]

"There's nothing on that list that a young child wouldn't eat."

There is as everything was heavily spiced, even the rice. My DC dont' like very spicy food. I've tried to give it to them.

Even the fish was coated in chilli oil......

[pumpernickel10]

I'm not here for a spelling test but bitch all you want back op I'll embrace it with open arms :)