AIBU to think this man is a total and utter KNOB that should keep his mouth SHUT at all times?

[onebigyawn]

My sister is stunning and has had a really hard time over the last few years which includes the break down of her marriage and various other stuff giving her confidence a total battering.
She has recently gone from blonde (highlights) to brunette, had a major restyle, changed her make-up and now looks even more gorgeous.

She got asked to help out yesterday at her childs school serving tea and coffee for dad's day and saw a friend of our brother's there who also has a child at the same school. She goes over to say Hi and he replies Oh hi, like the new look, much less slutty!!! The more I think about this the more irratated I get at how offensive this is...she has never ever looked slutty in her entire life and I can not believe he actually said that to her!

AIBU to tell him the next time I see him what a TWAT he is?

[ooohyouareawfulbutilikeyou]

yes its sod all to do with you

[worraliberty]

Well it depends on if he's got that sort of sense of humour or not?

Was your sister offended? I think that's the main thing to think about.

[slartybartfast]

what a prick!

i would just bear it in mind, and pehraps tell all people that he knows

[kidsscareme]

YANBU

Just say to him that he should restyle himself to look 'much less like an idiot'

TWAT

[MrsHuwEdwards]

YANBU in the slightest. What a sodding tosser!

[create]

Well, he did it amazingly bably, but wasn't he just trying to be nice..?

[HellAtWork]

There is just no equivalent is there for slutty for men. FFS.

I was thinking along the lines of pretending you'd noticed some change in him...."ooh you look different, what have you had done? new hair? No? sideburns? No? I just can't put my finger on it but....you just look so less bloated than usual. Have you been cutting back on the beer?"

And then say - hurtful when someone offers an unsolicited nasty opinion veiled as a 'compliment' isn't it?

I had this when I became fully brunette after having had highlights for years along with lots of comments about being marriage material now (WTF?)

[onebigyawn]

My sister does actually find it funny that he would dare to actually say that out loud but I could tell she was also a little hurt. It is just so odd that a 45 year old man would think that is as a compliment? Was he expecting her to reply with a big thank you?! Knobber!

[topazmcgonagall]

Father of sons? Or father of daughters? Either way he wants to figure out what slutwalk's about.
YANBU

[squeakytoy]

Well it is a backhanded compliment. Better than him saying "wow, you look slutty now".