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to ask about baby showers. How do they work then?

(43 Posts)
Reality Sat 11-Jun-11 19:34:57

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JamieAgain Sat 11-Jun-11 19:36:02

No dear. You've had quite enough.

ilovesprouts Sat 11-Jun-11 19:37:54

yuk

Reality Sat 11-Jun-11 19:38:26

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TidyDancer Sat 11-Jun-11 19:38:44

Oh Reality, please don't have one! They're so ick!

JamieAgain Sat 11-Jun-11 19:39:59

Can one start Baby shower lists at John Lewis? I think one should be able to

Reality Sat 11-Jun-11 19:40:11

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altinkum Sat 11-Jun-11 19:40:14

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Lavitabellissima Sat 11-Jun-11 19:40:32

I'm obviously losing it as I read your OP and thought you meant putting your baby in a shower shock confused

I think that etiquette states that someone else organises it for you and then it's fine. If you organise it yourself it's a bit rude and greedy grin

Which friend can you make give a subtle nudge to?

SongBirdsKeepSinging Sat 11-Jun-11 19:41:21

My friend threw me a surprise one when I was pregnant with dd it was lovely. We played funny games, did a sweepstake to guess sex and weight of baby and the person who got it right got the money (after birth obviously)

There were mocktails and snacks. My friends brought gifts many of which were for me not the baby :O

I think it's considered bad form to throw your own and write lists of demands gifts but loads of people do so why not :O

I really hope someone is throwing me another surprise one this time round!

meditrina Sat 11-Jun-11 19:43:47

Serious answer: you never host your own shower - that's a job for sister or BF. You do not have a list. The hostess does however do some co-ordination amongst guests to avoid duplicates. It is for first baby only.

Feel free to ignore any or all of the above. Many people do.

Parties to celebrate an impending new arrival do not have to be called "showers" - perhaps the solution for you is to give it a different name and free yourself from the expectations of a traditional shower?

SongBirdsKeepSinging Sat 11-Jun-11 19:45:41

I wouldn't expect gifts after the first baby but the games and girly time would be nice

I didn't expect a shower or gifts first time round either, was a lovely surprise though

Reality Sat 11-Jun-11 19:57:16

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MadamDeathstare Sat 11-Jun-11 19:57:40

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MadamDeathstare Sat 11-Jun-11 20:00:52

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Reality Sat 11-Jun-11 20:02:34

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cjbartlett Sat 11-Jun-11 20:02:54

Can I just invite people round and ask for cash?

no!

but they will bring gifts and hopefully vouchers

and you'll get dressed up like a baby or something

it'll be fun

have it in the afternoon so all the kids can come too

hire a bouncy castle for the garden and make it a party

by the time you've got food and booze in you'll have forked out more than you'll get in presents grin

PrincessJenga Sat 11-Jun-11 20:05:20

You can do baby lists at mothercare. A friend posted theirs on facebook. I was [shock}

BitOfFun Sat 11-Jun-11 20:14:45

I have been tutting at this thread title, thinking "grabby and vulgar" grin

Reality Sat 11-Jun-11 20:16:15

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TandB Sat 11-Jun-11 20:23:05

Can I come? I will bring presents.

[gets out chapstick to counter arse licking chapping]

Reality Sat 11-Jun-11 20:27:26

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LolaRennt Sat 11-Jun-11 20:32:09

No you ar eonly allowed them on the first baby. And then it needs to be organised by someone else.

breatheslowly Sat 11-Jun-11 20:37:00

Could you just send out your bank details and ask for people to transfer money in. You wouldn't need to have them round then. Perhaps they could give you £25 if they come to your baby shower and have to endure enforced fun and £50 if they are allowed to avoid it.

barbie007 Sat 11-Jun-11 20:38:26

it's an american thing....yikes!

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