My DS2 has returned to live at home after splitting with his DP, with whom he has a nearly 2 yo. DS pays considerably more maintenance than he has to, the child stays over here three nights/days most weeks, and the split is mostly amicable.
Apart from when the ex's mad bitch of a mother gets involved.
DS is low-paid and his ex is unemployed, so I like to treat my dgs and have bought various toys for him in the months since his parents split. Mostly these are small things, bath toys and so on, though I'll confess to a couple of ride-on toys and a small table with chairs. Nothing is hugely expensive, with "bigger" toys mainly in the £20 - £30 range. We live in a massive farmhouse with safe outdoor space, the ex has moved back into the council scheme where the rest of her family live, where outdoor toys could not be left outdoors, and she has little storage space indoors.
Word has reached me that the screeching harpie other grandmother considers that I spend too much on the child, and that I am attempting to "buy his love." AfaIac, the child has no idea where toys come from (they're just "here," we don't make a big fanfare of "Oooh, look what granny bought!") so any such attempt would be utterly futile, and as he's here nearly half the week, he needs toys to entertain and educate him here, as much as he needs them at his mum's house.
I will shame-facedly confess that when I heard this story, I maliciously bought a slide, a paddling pool and a sand-and-water toy for my dgs, and posted about same on DS's Facebook wall, so the ex would see. I realise that this is childish of me, but can't see how it hurts anyone.
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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 11/06/2011 15:01
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