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to not be a Mum but still want to be part of Mumsnet?

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PetShopGirl Fri 10-Jun-11 23:03:35

I lost a baby late in pregnancy and found myself here via a lurk on the bereavement and miscarriage/pregnancy loss forums, so I suppose I'm not a complete fraud. But I can't thinking that even if I was never planning on having children I could still find a lot of information/support/fun here entirely relevant to all women.

Just out of interest really, are non-Mums welcome on Mumsnet?

dolldaggabuzzbuzz Fri 10-Jun-11 23:04:57

You ARE a Mum. Sorry for your loss.

Loonytoonie Fri 10-Jun-11 23:05:24

Certainly a welcome from me....
Sorry for your loss PetShopGirl x

Tuggy Fri 10-Jun-11 23:05:24

I'm a non mum (we are going to be TTC in august) but I've been addicted for about a year. Def think lots of the forum is relevant to a women

magicmummy1 Fri 10-Jun-11 23:05:30

There are loads of people on here who aren't parents. If you like it here, you're more than welcome! smile

Honeydragon Fri 10-Jun-11 23:05:53

There are certainly a awful lot of non mums on here smile, I guess the important thing is do you feel welcome? smile

And sorry for your loss sad

Tortu Fri 10-Jun-11 23:05:59

I'm welcoming you! Sorry for your loss and, as somebody who had a miscarriage just over a year ago but now has a healthy baby, I'm feeling your pain (difficult even to express how much it hurts), but telling you a lot can change in a year!

Joolyjoolyjoo Fri 10-Jun-11 23:06:38

Of course they are! I think there is plenty on here that isn't child-orientated (thank God!) Get stuck in- but be warned, it's addictive!

PetShopGirl Fri 10-Jun-11 23:08:10

Thanks everyone - I guess I'll get involved then! smile

Clarabumps Fri 10-Jun-11 23:09:53

be prepared to lose hours of your life and have nowt to show for it other than a strange feeling that you've been on some wierd school reunion while wearing an invisible cape.. odd but good!

PetShopGirl Fri 10-Jun-11 23:13:35

Joolyjoolyjoo/Clarabumps - I know! Totally addictive. I'm already wasting huge swathes of time at work reading the AIBU threads - it's like the juiciest problem page ever, only updated in realtime. Right up my street.

Pumpernickel10 Fri 10-Jun-11 23:18:08

Welcome to the mad house

So sorry for your loss sad

MadamDeathstare Fri 10-Jun-11 23:21:41

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FunnysInTheGarden Fri 10-Jun-11 23:23:53

OP you are a mum and so entitled to MN, as are all those who aren't mums or dads come to that.

bluejeans Fri 10-Jun-11 23:24:35

I like the idea of non-mums wanting to be here, so welcome! I'm a mum but most of what I post about/read on here is not mum related anyway. Sorry to hear of your loss

great username smile

moondog Fri 10-Jun-11 23:26:12

It's for anyone.
Anyone at all.
Great to have you althoguh sad to hear how you got here.

Icelollycraving Fri 10-Jun-11 23:27:23

Welcome! Prepare to lose a lot of time on here smile
Sorry for your loss,like a previous poster I had a mc last year & it can be heartbreaking,but life changes a lot & quickly,I'm due in a few weeks & I wish you all the luck in the world.
Now,has anyone explained about fruit shoots,greggs sausage rolls,per una.......

PetShopGirl Fri 10-Jun-11 23:36:47

Thanks for your lovely messages, and of course I do consider myself to be a mum. But I suppose the issue I was worried about is that practically speaking I'm not really (and in my currently heightened emotional/defensive state I do have a tendency to feel excluded from the parenting 'club'...). However, you've all made me feel very welcome so I'll definitely stick around grin.

Valpollicella Fri 10-Jun-11 23:39:52

I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I hope you've found help on the boards you've been on.

But please feel free to venture onto the others as well. I reckon there are about the same amount of non-parenting threds as there are ones about being a parent, in whatever guise they might be.

Just steer clear of AIBU grin

moondog Fri 10-Jun-11 23:44:36

The parent issue os neither here nor there for many posters.
It makes me laugh how some of my friends think MN is for talking nappies and sleep rpoutines.

Sure it's there if you want it but it's just one of many things going on.

The calibre of political debate on here is exceptional for one thing.
As is fashion advice!

crazynanna Fri 10-Jun-11 23:49:22

Welcome...and if they let me on,they will let anyone on grin
My heart goes out to you sad

PrinceHumperdink Fri 10-Jun-11 23:50:54

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corsilk Fri 10-Jun-11 23:51:31

sorry for your loss sad
this place is for everyone and anyone

BoiledFrog Sat 11-Jun-11 00:53:37

So sorry for your loss, and yes you absolutely are a Mum. Not that it matters in terms of Mumsnet, I think that it's so popular and well known now and crops up in all kinds of google search results, that all kinds of people post here.

It is a unique site, and most of it doesn't feature children anyway, I'd be happy to browse here often even if I had no interest in children whatsoever. I have tried to find other sites like Mn but failed, I think the USP of Mn is that it is majority female, but not heavily moderated and censored, obviously it has a huge user base too.

Every other site that I have encountered with a huge user base is either male dominated or heavily moderated (which does my bonce in).

Kallista Sat 11-Jun-11 05:03:12

I'm not a mum, but discovered mumsnet by chance during last general election.
The press were discussing mumsnet (in a quite negative way) so i decided to lurk and found i really enjoyed a lot of threads - AIBU is the best.
It's good to find a forum where there are other intelligent women (and a few men) of all backgrounds who will discuss anything, and have a variety of views.
Also I hope to ttc when my health improves, and mumsnet's tips will be useful.
Hope things work out for you x.
Ps i wear some per una and i'm not ashamed to admit it ! ;-)

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