To have asked if someone could pick me up.(7 Posts)
I have just moved towns, about 20 mins away from where I used to live. I left behind what I thought was a good group of friends with kids the same as my DS.
A little background: I'm currently 7mths pregnant, and had horrible HG at the beginning of my pregancy. I was hospitalised etc and haven't really regained my full health throughout my pregnancy.
I've kept in touch with my friends via phone/Facebook etc, and have repeatedly said that if they are ever in my new town, then they can come over with their DCs and play. No one has taken me up on this so far.
Last week, a new park opened in my town, and one of them texted me to say they were all going down there to check it out and asked if I would like to come. i don't drive, and although I don't live far away (about 10mins walk from the park), there's a huge hill that I would have to walk up on the way back.
I just didn't think I would be physically strong enough to push DS there in his pushchair, run about after him for several hours and then walk back up the huge hill to get home. since I am quite new to the town and haven't been well, I haven't had a chance to suss out buses or anything either, so i asked if it would be possible for one of them to pick me up.
Three of them would be bringing cars, so there would be plenty of room, even with baby seats etc and I offered car park costs too. Nor would they have had to go out of their way, to get into town they need to pass the end of my road.
I'm not a scrounger and I have been taking driving lessons whenever money has allowed, but for some reason as soon as I asked for a lift, I didn't get any more texts. On the day i had a text to ask if I was coming, by which time they were already there.
I feel really bad, like I asked for something completely outrageous. I'd just like some opinions on whether asking for a lift is bad form!
but they prob thought it a bit cheeky as they had made more effort than you
and i suffered HG badly too,and dont think everyone realises how debilitating it actually is unless they have been there themselves. even then ,you tend to forget how it feels (5 dc here and i suffered it badly.....obviously I forgot )
I have spd and am 34 weeks, I would have asked for a lift too. Maybe they aren't as good friends as you thought? 20 mins distance is nothing so I don't understand why they haven't visited, could they not have popped to your house for coffee before/after the park? I have moved over 3 hour drive away from my friends (I also don't drive) and they still come visit me.
Yeah, I am starting to make new friends at playgroup in my new town anyway so I am thinking it's just a natural tailing off of friendships maybe.
I have moved to the nearest big town to my old one, I know for a fact they have all been here several times without visiting me. I'm not taking it personally, I suppose we didn't have a lot in common apart from our kids' ages.
One of them I am a little pissed off about as I went over hers loads after she had an operation and helped with her DS. I thought she'd cut me a little more slack when I've been ill. And I really have!
Not bad form at all, especially from people who are meant to be your friends. But it sounds as if they maybe have different ideas about your relationship, which is a pity but perhaps it's time to cut them loose and move on? They sound mean, to be honest. I can't imagine anyone I know being so unhelpful.
I think it was mean of them not to pick you up when you don't drive. They don't sound very good friends or perhaps they misunderstood.YANBU
Sounds like they might have just forgotten to get back to you. Did you say why you wanted the lift? I probably would have given you a lift, but given my driving i wouldn't really like being responsible for a pregnant mate and her child.
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