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To ask why some women don't have sex with their husbands enough?

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dontstopbelieving Thu 09-Jun-11 22:14:08

Just from reading some threads I think some women don't realise how much a man needs sex. Totally on a different level to how we do but making that bit of effort not to think about how tired we are (I am most of the time) but just from my experience they don't want firework inducing experiences. Its just how men feel close and connected is by having sex. Shouldn't we make the effort to make the effort?

BulletWithAName Thu 09-Jun-11 22:15:50

I'm not going to flame you, but brace yourself.

wudu Thu 09-Jun-11 22:16:29

Define 'enough'

dontstopbelieving Thu 09-Jun-11 22:16:45

I'm bracing myself don't worry!

squeakytoy Thu 09-Jun-11 22:16:59

Not all men are like that though.

BertieBotts Thu 09-Jun-11 22:17:19

Is this a fucking joke? confused

supadupapupascupa Thu 09-Jun-11 22:17:38

oh dear...... <gets comfy>

StewieGriffinsMom Thu 09-Jun-11 22:17:50

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

threadsoffeeling Thu 09-Jun-11 22:18:03

biscuit mine doesn't want sex. ever. what do you suggest i do?

tethersend Thu 09-Jun-11 22:18:25

Pull my nightie down when you're finished.

PartialToACupOfMilo Thu 09-Jun-11 22:18:28


BooyHoo Thu 09-Jun-11 22:18:54

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PunkPixie Thu 09-Jun-11 22:18:54

I agree, but I don't think you can apply the assertion to men alone. I absolutely must have that itch scratched (Be it with sex with DH or solo) or I get grumpy. It's a physical need. Sex is an integral part to our relationship. It's not about how good it is (And it IS good!) but more about being close with him. It's making love.

Not all relationships are like tis though and I think that couples should regularly chat about how they feel about sex because people's drives can be subject to change. So everyone knows where they stand.

d0gFace Thu 09-Jun-11 22:19:10


K999 Thu 09-Jun-11 22:19:18

This has got to be a joke?

Men feeling close and connected!? ARF ARF....

MaureenMLove Thu 09-Jun-11 22:19:26

Oh yes, I quite agree!

I also tie a ribbon in my hair and put some lipstick on, for when he comes home from a hard day at work!

balloonballs Thu 09-Jun-11 22:19:51

Seriously? I mean it's not original, it's very badly phrased and doesn't have the pathos of "my child is in danger from the evil menz".

Poor effort, 2/10 at most.

NoobyNoob Thu 09-Jun-11 22:20:12

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sunshineandbooks Thu 09-Jun-11 22:20:36

I think men would get a lot more sex if they gave more consideration to their wives and girlfriends. Tis a fact borne out by research!

Shakirasma Thu 09-Jun-11 22:20:55

I think often couples don't have enough sex. It's not a man or woman thing, I don't think gender dictates sex drive, it's an individual thing and it constantly changes.

In long term relationships it can tail off. I think it is important that both partners make an effort to maintain a sex life as I think it is extremely important to reaffirm the bond between you and provides emotional security.

smoggii Thu 09-Jun-11 22:21:32

The OP is a man no?

TotallyUtterlyDesperate Thu 09-Jun-11 22:22:43

My DH does not want and cannot have sex with me due to disability. I would love to have sex again. How does that fit in with your theory?

ilovesooty Thu 09-Jun-11 22:23:03

I think Shakirasma is right.

dontstopbelieving Thu 09-Jun-11 22:23:22

Enough? Good question! If your dh or dp is in the mood then aren't they showing how much they are attracted to you and love you. As much as is normal for you. For my dh 2 or 3 times a week. It is the difference of the sexes I know. wink

K999 Thu 09-Jun-11 22:24:05

I'd spend all and every day snagging DP if I didn't

Have kids
Have a full time job
Have times of the month when I hate him
Have days where I "vant to bee alone"
Have several other lovers who demand constant attention


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