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AIBU in adoring DS's lovely teacher whose eyes filled with tears when DS and I told her about the death of the hamster

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pretentiouswasteoftime Thu 09-Jun-11 18:37:24

Our little hammie died last night totally unexpectedly so we are very sad today. DS was keen that I let his teacher know this morning. We told her and DS shed a few tears, she just welled up and spoke about her daughter's hamster who they were all very fond of and who had died some weeks ago.

She didn't make DS go into the playground with the other children before school but took him off to "help" her get some things ready for the day and said he could be her " special helper" which DS loved.

When I collected DS this afternoon she came out with him holding a book called "Dragonflies" which is for talking about death to children. She said we could borrow it for as long as we wanted. She told me that DS has done some work about loss today and been encouraged to talk about his feelings. This apparently helped all the class as they recalled pets they had loved and lost or loved ones.

Just so grateful DS is in the school he is as they are all just fantastic there. And DS's teacher is wonderful with him (he has ASD and ADHD). DS is just coming to the end of Y3 and has another couple of years yet in this supportive school. I am so glad.

EmLH Thu 09-Jun-11 18:42:02

Aah she sounds lovely smile Teachers that are nice to children are always the ones that stick out in their memories. I think it's so important as it makes them want to learn more. Hope my DD gets some nice ones when she starts school!

Punkatheart Thu 09-Jun-11 18:44:05

Adorable, sensitive and as EmLH says, a teacher that will be remembered. So glad you found a super school.

SoftKittyWarmKitty Thu 09-Jun-11 18:44:10

I've just welled up myself reading that! What a lovely school/teacher. I hope your son feels better soon.

Pumpernickel10 Thu 09-Jun-11 18:44:20

What a lovely teacher she sounds like. I hope your DS is coping well. We lost one of our Russian hamsters the other week and DD was heartbroken, we all were. She was so upset as the other hamster would be so lonely.
Sending huggies to your DS

EndoplasmicReticulum Thu 09-Jun-11 18:51:42

That's a lovely story. Poor little hamster - they never last long enough.

I'm a teacher, we lost one of our school guineas last week. My colleague was more upset than the children, they were comforting her!
We now have one lonely pig, pining.

Bonsoir Thu 09-Jun-11 18:57:35

Hmm. This is a wind up, is it not?

pigletmania Thu 09-Jun-11 19:01:04

What a lovely teacher, you remember a good teacher

BornThisWayBaby Thu 09-Jun-11 19:03:00

Aww glad you've found such a nice school / teacher. Thats so sweet of her smile

DirtyMartini Thu 09-Jun-11 19:07:07

Bonsoir, why?

Hope it's not, as it is very touching. I read lots of posts that make me dread the school years, so it makes a pleasant change.

ooohyouareawfulbutilikeyou Thu 09-Jun-11 19:15:01

yes she does sound lovely

Icelollycraving Thu 09-Jun-11 19:18:55

Aaah,that's a star teacher. That's the kind of teacher you want for days like today.

catinthehat2 Thu 09-Jun-11 20:16:54

if it is a wind up (not sure why it might be tho hmm) then not nice

if it isn't, then I would recommend writing a note to the head at the end of the year saying what a star the teacher is, as that will please both no end

herbietea Thu 09-Jun-11 20:21:17

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pretentiouswasteoftime Thu 09-Jun-11 20:52:16

Why would it be a wind up Bonsoir? confused

She was lovely and really supportive to DS, am actually really touched by how kind she was. Yes I will write to the head teacher at the end of the year because without a doubt my DS has done really well with her, just sad we have to "give her up" in a few short weeks. Not sure who he has next year yet but the whole school seems supportive to the children in its care. Not sure what's in my OP that suggests "wind up".

Usually post as "Dilldaydreaming" but changed to this name before Sandra Parsons from the Mail could nick it. She thinks we are all smug North Londoners.

So no - not a wind up, OP typed hurriedly on an iPad that's all.

Sensi Thu 09-Jun-11 20:54:14

Tears in my eyes, now! How adorable.

pretentiouswasteoftime Thu 09-Jun-11 20:57:25

Thanks for the kind sympathies about our hamster. We have buried her in the garden (well actually in a huge pot as the garden is very rubble containing just below the topsoil).
We've put a Lavender on top so hopefully I shouldn't need to repot for a good couple of years, DS chose the plant and we both gave her (the hamster) a cuddle before we buried her.

But... I am evidently the kiss of death for hamsters, they are supposed to live 2 years and I don't seem able to keep them alive longer that 12-13 months! No more hamsters for a good while if ever, will stick to the cat.

Pumpernickel10 Thu 09-Jun-11 20:57:39

How on gods earth could this be a wind up?
Sounds like a lovely teacher and a great school.

Pumpernickel10 Thu 09-Jun-11 20:59:55

Our hamsters last about 2 years, but did have one many years ago called Spud and he lived for 4. A very chubby hamster but adorable.

pretentiouswasteoftime Thu 09-Jun-11 21:03:59

Wonder if Bonsoir was thinking "wtf" regarding tears over a hamster grin.
I am used to friends telling me I am "sad" for putting pictures of her on Facebook (these friends have no soul - can you tell)?wink

Anyway - stand by my OP regarding the teacher - she is lovely and has been wonderful with my DS this year. The school's whole ethos seems to be "everybody matters". They recently (6 months ago) took a girl who has been expelled from 3 previous schools and to date are achieving more with her than anyone else ever has with lots of support and inclusion. I am proud and relieved that DS is in a school which looks at children in such a positive way because not every school does.

DirtyMartini Thu 09-Jun-11 21:05:08


spiderlight Thu 09-Jun-11 21:11:49

What a lovely, lovely teacher - I hope my DS has one like her when he starts school in September. Sorry to hear about your hamster.

pretentiouswasteoftime Thu 09-Jun-11 21:50:23

More detail from DS this evening.

"Ben's cat died,(Ben is one of DS's classmates), he was called B, and we planted a flower for him and Bramble(hamster) in the garden ( school has a central gardening area).

And then apparently they wrote their pet's name on a lolly stick and put them with the plant they'd each chosen.

How cool is that?

wotnochocs Thu 09-Jun-11 21:52:25

I'm sorry but i have to be honest.I would think a teacher who cried over the death of her pupil's hamster, to be an absolute drip! There I've said it!!

pretentiouswasteoftime Thu 09-Jun-11 21:57:55

You heartless wench wotnochocs grin

She shed some tears I think because seeing DS bought the feelings of loss up a bit regarding her family's hamster. No she was lively and kind.

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