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AIBU?

AIBU in adoring DS's lovely teacher whose eyes filled with tears when DS and I told her about the death of the hamster

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pretentiouswasteoftime · 09/06/2011 18:37

Our little hammie died last night totally unexpectedly so we are very sad today. DS was keen that I let his teacher know this morning. We told her and DS shed a few tears, she just welled up and spoke about her daughter's hamster who they were all very fond of and who had died some weeks ago.

She didn't make DS go into the playground with the other children before school but took him off to "help" her get some things ready for the day and said he could be her " special helper" which DS loved.

When I collected DS this afternoon she came out with him holding a book called "Dragonflies" which is for talking about death to children. She said we could borrow it for as long as we wanted. She told me that DS has done some work about loss today and been encouraged to talk about his feelings. This apparently helped all the class as they recalled pets they had loved and lost or loved ones.

Just so grateful DS is in the school he is as they are all just fantastic there. And DS's teacher is wonderful with him (he has ASD and ADHD). DS is just coming to the end of Y3 and has another couple of years yet in this supportive school. I am so glad.

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EmLH · 09/06/2011 18:42

Aah she sounds lovely :) Teachers that are nice to children are always the ones that stick out in their memories. I think it's so important as it makes them want to learn more. Hope my DD gets some nice ones when she starts school!

Punkatheart · 09/06/2011 18:44

Adorable, sensitive and as EmLH says, a teacher that will be remembered. So glad you found a super school.

SoftKittyWarmKitty · 09/06/2011 18:44

I've just welled up myself reading that! What a lovely school/teacher. I hope your son feels better soon.

Pumpernickel10 · 09/06/2011 18:44

What a lovely teacher she sounds like. I hope your DS is coping well. We lost one of our Russian hamsters the other week and DD was heartbroken, we all were. She was so upset as the other hamster would be so lonely.
Sending huggies to your DS

EndoplasmicReticulum · 09/06/2011 18:51

That's a lovely story. Poor little hamster - they never last long enough.

I'm a teacher, we lost one of our school guineas last week. My colleague was more upset than the children, they were comforting her!
We now have one lonely pig, pining.

Bonsoir · 09/06/2011 18:57

Hmm. This is a wind up, is it not?

pigletmania · 09/06/2011 19:01

What a lovely teacher, you remember a good teacher

BornThisWayBaby · 09/06/2011 19:03

Aww glad you've found such a nice school / teacher. Thats so sweet of her

DirtyMartini · 09/06/2011 19:07

Bonsoir, why?

Hope it's not, as it is very touching. I read lots of posts that make me dread the school years, so it makes a pleasant change.

ooohyouareawfulbutilikeyou · 09/06/2011 19:15

yes she does sound lovely

Icelollycraving · 09/06/2011 19:18

Aaah,that's a star teacher. That's the kind of teacher you want for days like today.

catinthehat2 · 09/06/2011 20:16

if it is a wind up (not sure why it might be tho ) then not nice

if it isn't, then I would recommend writing a note to the head at the end of the year saying what a star the teacher is, as that will please both no end

herbietea · 09/06/2011 20:21

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pretentiouswasteoftime · 09/06/2011 20:52

Why would it be a wind up Bonsoir?

She was lovely and really supportive to DS, am actually really touched by how kind she was. Yes I will write to the head teacher at the end of the year because without a doubt my DS has done really well with her, just sad we have to "give her up" in a few short weeks. Not sure who he has next year yet but the whole school seems supportive to the children in its care. Not sure what's in my OP that suggests "wind up".

Usually post as "Dilldaydreaming" but changed to this name before Sandra Parsons from the Mail could nick it. She thinks we are all smug North Londoners.

So no - not a wind up, OP typed hurriedly on an iPad that's all.

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Sensi · 09/06/2011 20:54

Tears in my eyes, now! How adorable.

pretentiouswasteoftime · 09/06/2011 20:57

Thanks for the kind sympathies about our hamster. We have buried her in the garden (well actually in a huge pot as the garden is very rubble containing just below the topsoil).
We've put a Lavender on top so hopefully I shouldn't need to repot for a good couple of years, DS chose the plant and we both gave her (the hamster) a cuddle before we buried her.

But... I am evidently the kiss of death for hamsters, they are supposed to live 2 years and I don't seem able to keep them alive longer that 12-13 months! No more hamsters for a good while if ever, will stick to the cat.

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Pumpernickel10 · 09/06/2011 20:57

How on gods earth could this be a wind up?
Sounds like a lovely teacher and a great school.

Pumpernickel10 · 09/06/2011 20:59

Our hamsters last about 2 years, but did have one many years ago called Spud and he lived for 4. A very chubby hamster but adorable.

pretentiouswasteoftime · 09/06/2011 21:03

Wonder if Bonsoir was thinking "wtf" regarding tears over a hamster .
I am used to friends telling me I am "sad" for putting pictures of her on Facebook (these friends have no soul - can you tell)?

Anyway - stand by my OP regarding the teacher - she is lovely and has been wonderful with my DS this year. The school's whole ethos seems to be "everybody matters". They recently (6 months ago) took a girl who has been expelled from 3 previous schools and to date are achieving more with her than anyone else ever has with lots of support and inclusion. I am proud and relieved that DS is in a school which looks at children in such a positive way because not every school does.

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DirtyMartini · 09/06/2011 21:05

:)

spiderlight · 09/06/2011 21:11

What a lovely, lovely teacher - I hope my DS has one like her when he starts school in September. Sorry to hear about your hamster.

pretentiouswasteoftime · 09/06/2011 21:50

More detail from DS this evening.

"Ben's cat died,(Ben is one of DS's classmates), he was called B, and we planted a flower for him and Bramble(hamster) in the garden ( school has a central gardening area).

And then apparently they wrote their pet's name on a lolly stick and put them with the plant they'd each chosen.

How cool is that?

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wotnochocs · 09/06/2011 21:52

I'm sorry but i have to be honest.I would think a teacher who cried over the death of her pupil's hamster, to be an absolute drip! There I've said it!!

pretentiouswasteoftime · 09/06/2011 21:57

You heartless wench wotnochocs

She shed some tears I think because seeing DS bought the feelings of loss up a bit regarding her family's hamster. No she was lively and kind.

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ashamedandconfused · 09/06/2011 21:58

what a lovely teacher, and RIP hammie

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