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To feel like I've been interviewed and rejected re. friendship

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sparklingchampagne Thu 09-Jun-11 10:25:01

A new boy has started in DD's Year 1 class.
I got chatting to his Mum in theplayground, and she invited me and DD round for coffee as she wanted to 'get to know people and see if they were suited to being her friend.' I thought this an odd way to word things, but DD and I went for coffee the next week.
We went to the park together, and I had to pull DD up as she went to cross the road without holding my hand, she got a telling off (she's normally as good as gold - was just excited)
I invited them back to ours, and because her son doesn't eat a whole load of food, made a real effort to plan something he could eat for tea. She went through what I was planning to feed him and then told me not to bother as it wasn't organic and he wouldn't like anything I'd prepared.
Since this, the Mum has put her head down and practically run away when she's seen me. Her son, at DD's party, was chatting to me and said that DD was really really naughty - because his Mum said so.

Am not going to say anything, we're all different and sometimes friendships don't take off, but AIBU for feeling like this was an interview for friendship!

virginiasmonalogue Thu 09-Jun-11 10:26:12

Rude bitch!!

itisnearlysummer Thu 09-Jun-11 10:27:05

Oh there are parents like that at my DDs school.

I think I've failed my interviews too!

I generally don't think I'm missing out on much.

ItsTime Thu 09-Jun-11 10:27:13

I think it probably was and thankfully she saved you the task of telling her she was unsuccessful smile

squeakytoy Thu 09-Jun-11 10:27:34

Would you actually want to be friends with such a twat? grin

Fecklessdizzy Thu 09-Jun-11 10:27:36

Christ, she sounds like a bloody nightmare ... You're well out of it, rude bitch!

JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns Thu 09-Jun-11 10:27:49

what virginia said.

plantsitter Thu 09-Jun-11 10:28:56

Feel sorry for her son. Wonder if he'll ever be allowed any friends?!

Pumpernickel10 Thu 09-Jun-11 10:29:29

sparkling don't let the rudeness of others make you bad.
You did nothing wrong this lady clearly as a chip on her shoulder.

sparklingchampagne Thu 09-Jun-11 10:31:11

You've made me feel better about it - I had a inkling she was a bit odd! And no, I wouldn't want to be her friend I don't think - just wanted to be welcoming to a new family to school as it must be difficult.
Will stick my friends who didn't interview me for friendship!

redwineformethanks Thu 09-Jun-11 10:31:35

How rude!

sparklingchampagne Thu 09-Jun-11 10:31:41

Sorry - should say - will stick to my friends!!!

ScroobiousPip Thu 09-Jun-11 10:32:02

shock at every bit of your post. Sounds like you're well rid!

allthefires Thu 09-Jun-11 10:33:39

Dont feel rejected - feel delighted you had a lucky escape!

MangoTango Thu 09-Jun-11 10:35:29

It sounds like her social skills are sorely lacking and you are well shot of her.

sue52 Thu 09-Jun-11 10:36:08

Would you want to a "suitable" friend for this woman? She sounds like hard work.

madonnawhore Thu 09-Jun-11 10:36:42

She sounds unhinged, no wonder she doesn't have many mates.

saidthespiderwithahorridsmile Thu 09-Jun-11 10:39:12

I had one of these once

she told me firmly "I like my friends to be intelligent"

I'm afraid I sniggered

Conflugenglugen Thu 09-Jun-11 10:40:15

Rejoice! Rid of that one, then.

takethisonehereforastart Thu 09-Jun-11 10:40:44

She's not going to have a lot of friends is she?

And if by chance she does meet someone else from planet-rude-and-strange then they will no doubt be in too much competition with each other for the title of Best Behaved Organic Eating Child's Mother to be anything other than frenemies anyway.

Lucky escape for you OP.

GypsyMoth Thu 09-Jun-11 10:41:06

Who has she ended up being friends with then?

LRDTheFeministDragon Thu 09-Jun-11 10:43:49

grin I think you're well out of it!

Also loving the idea her son would be able to taste the non-organic-ness of your food .... that's a new one!

SarahStratton Thu 09-Jun-11 10:44:56

Nobody is my guess. She sounds jaw-droppingly weird.

saffy85 Thu 09-Jun-11 10:46:19

shock do people like this really exist?

Thank your lucky stars she avoids you to save you the bother of avoiding her. Who'd want to be friends with her?! confused

Pagwatch Thu 09-Jun-11 10:46:28

Yes. Who is she friends with?

Don't bother being rude about her, nor feel slighted by her.
It must be awful to feel so anxious about choosing the 'right' friend that you can't just be yourself and like who you like. Awful. Very insecure and sad tbh.

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