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School trip. Need quick advice. More of a WWYD

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ToDoodles Thu 09-Jun-11 07:57:38

Ds1 has just started new pre-school. Today will be his second afternoon. He's only just 4.

They are running a school trip to a farm attraction which is 40 ish miles away tomorrow and i'm not sure if to let him go.

He's only just started and wont know all the teachers, children etc, or who to go to.
He'll also have to take a morning off from his normal pre-school.
What if something happens!?

I have to sign the forms to be in this morning. He really does want to go.

Yes he is my PFB and I know i need to let him go eventually but... WWYD?

DegreesCelcius Thu 09-Jun-11 08:01:10

Any chance of you being able to go as well.
You could ask. They might appreciate the extra help.

HushedTones Thu 09-Jun-11 08:01:56

Assuming you are happy that the trip will be supervised properly and that the travel arrangements are all safe (which they will be - the amount of planning that goes into these things is huge) then let him go - he will love it.
Yes you will spend the whole day convinced he's been left behind / eaten by a sheep or can't open his lunch but that won't be the case. He will have a brilliant time and it will do him good to have a lovely positive experience to cement his new place at Pre School.

yoshiLunk Thu 09-Jun-11 08:06:41

I felt the same for my PFB's first trip. I couldn't go on the trip but I spoke with one of the other Mums who DS knew quite well and I was reassured to know she would be looking out for him.

yoshiLunk Thu 09-Jun-11 08:07:30

grin at eaten by a sheep

DialMforMummy Thu 09-Jun-11 08:12:48

Don't worry! Let him go.
On school trips these days not much is left to chance. Staff have to do the hell of a lot of risk assessments and IME ( am a teacher) children are very well supervised.
It's a milestone for both of you. Think that it would be a shame to stop him doing something he wants to do because you are worried.

exoticfruits Thu 09-Jun-11 08:12:52

If he wants to go I would let him-don't hold a confident DC back with your fears. (if he was unsure I would have a different reply)

acatcalledbob Thu 09-Jun-11 08:15:44

Let him go - my DD2 is 2 and has done 2 nursery trips (butterfly farm and fire station) in the last year. She also traveled with nursery to a theatre several times for dress rehearsals for their Xmas show. She loved it and it was all done with relevant risk assessment etc.

It's probably the best way for your DS to settle in and make friends - all the more reason for him to go imo.

ToDoodles Thu 09-Jun-11 08:17:13

I will have dd2 with me who's just hit terrible twos and we would be more of a hindrance than a help grin
Although i'm thinking of driving down and just hanging around so i can keep an eye on him or is that a bit [hmmm] ?

I don't know any of the other mums yet.

Bucharest Thu 09-Jun-11 08:17:53

If he wants to go, then yes.

(don't let him see either that Mum will be chewing her knuckles and checking the local news all afternoon!) We'll hold your hand while he's gone. It'll be a lovely informal way for him to mix with the other children as well.

Bucharest Thu 09-Jun-11 08:19:00

Don't go lurking in the undergrowth!

(you could ask if they need a helper? I did that last year with dd's school trip?) But don't slink around camouflaged as a bush or anything. grin

valiumredhead Thu 09-Jun-11 08:25:20

If he wants to go then let him - but as he has only just started there I would go and help out wink Driving down is a good idea and meeting them there then you can scoot off if dd2 is being too disruptive.

allthefires Thu 09-Jun-11 08:31:40

Let him go and don't stalk him! He will be fine- you however Wong be so have some distractions in place!

chelstonmum Thu 09-Jun-11 08:47:55

My DC's started a new school in late September. DS (8)'s class had a residential coming up 2weeks later....we politely declined and had a few days doing our own project. Would have gladly let him go if DH or I could have gone along too.

Drive along, let other DC have a nice day out and you can leave if he seems to be fine and Dc2 is getting grumpy.

Good luck!

OldMacEIEIO Thu 09-Jun-11 08:50:39

let him go. its a small risk

treas Thu 09-Jun-11 09:11:11

If he's keen let him go - he'll have a brilliant time and think he is so grown up to have spent the day with the other bigger pre-school kids.

I personally would not follow him down as he could see this as a sign as something wrong, which might effect him settling in to pre-school. Secondly, it might just embarrass him and make him a figure of fun with the other kids.

ToDoodles Thu 09-Jun-11 09:31:34

Thank you all smile

I put in the form saying he could go. He's so excited it seemed mean not to let him. Its a very organised trip with lots of adults.... I'm trying to convince myself.

Really gonna try not to stalk him. sad

Expect lots of frantic posting tomorrow grin

HushedTones Thu 09-Jun-11 10:38:00

ToDoodles - he will have a fantastic time smile
Make sure you have a busy day planned for tomorrow and expect to feel a bit nervy. He will be absolutely fine but you will be a wreck.
I practically cried with relief the first time my DS came home safely on the coach from a school trip. Now my kids are a little bit older, they do residential trips, camping trips and all sorts (with school and with outside clubs too). It does get easier (a bit - I still don't sleep well when they are on cub camp outdoors) and it gives tham an independence and sense of achivement that you just can't replicate by always going with them.

lesley33 Thu 09-Jun-11 10:47:36

Its great that he is so excited. Just to say I don't think it is a good idea to go along to the farm as this may unsettle him. Sometimes children can be having a great time, but if they spot their mum where they weren't expecting to see her, it can IME make some children unsettled and not as happy as they were.

Say to the staff that it is his first time on a trip without you and you are very nervous about it. But I am sure it will be fine.

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar Thu 09-Jun-11 11:01:24

DS still talks sometimes about his first ever nursery trip - aged 4. Six years later! Happy memories, it seems smile

yoshiLunk Thu 09-Jun-11 14:02:14

I practically cried with relief the first time my DS came home safely on the coach from a school trip

<whispers> me too blush

I actually went out for the day to a shopping centre when DS went on his first trip to keep my mind off it. On the way I passed the sign for the place he was visiting - I was so tempted to pull in off the motorway grin

Let us know how he gets on, and if you need to do some frantic posting it's alright with me wink

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