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to hate our neighbours on holiday??

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CocktailQueen Tue 07-Jun-11 19:15:08

Last week over half term we stayed on a Hoseasons type park with wooden lodges with balconies. Some are owned, some rented per week. My dc were out playing one afternoon and exploring. They had found some rough stepping stones behind the lodge next to ours and had walked across them (in a few rows of trees marking the boundary of the park). Mrs next door comes out and yells at my kids in a horrible voice - 'don't you know that's a private garden? can't you see it's private? get off my garden!' etc, reducing my 7yo dd to tears. I was WITh them at this point and hadn't twigged it was a bloody private garden! Anyway, I said sorry, we hadn't realised - politely, but she continued yelling. So I repeated sorry and took the kids away.

Told dh about it and he went over to ask them not to tell off our children but if they had a problem, come to us instead. They told him that I had shouted at them and it was our fault if our chikldren were cry babies shock.

Anyway, for the rest of the holiday they watched us whenever we came into or left the lodge. They watched us when we walked past their lodge. They sometimes shouted at us. After a couple of days of this we got fed up and complained to staff on reception who had a word with them but this didn't make any difference. They saved goodbye really sarcastically each morning when we left and on the last day they clapped as we left shock. What a rude old couple. So, AIBU to get upset and obsess about it??

CocktailQueen Tue 07-Jun-11 19:15:31

Waved, not saved!

MainlyMaynie Tue 07-Jun-11 19:17:20

I would have been really upset by it and I'd have tried to move! What unpleasant people. YANBU.

thelittlefriend Tue 07-Jun-11 19:18:11

sound like a right miserable old couple but not a lot you can do about it. You would definitely be unreasonable to waste any more time thinking about them!

katvond Tue 07-Jun-11 19:19:36

Yes YABU I don't want kids I don't know playing in my garden.
I wouldn't shout at the them but my stare would scare the fook at out them

activate Tue 07-Jun-11 19:23:11

Sounds like you weren't very nice neighbours either

I think this bit was completely out of order of you tbh "Told dh about it and he went over to ask them not to tell off our children but if they had a problem, come to us instead"

CocktailQueen Tue 07-Jun-11 19:31:33

PS the site manager said they had had other people complain about them before as well...

CocktailQueen Tue 07-Jun-11 19:32:11

PS the site manager said they had had other people complain about them before as well...

CocktailQueen Tue 07-Jun-11 19:33:23

Katvond - it was not obvious it was their garden. It was in the trees behind their lodge - a communal border not 'theirs'.

Activate - so you;d be happy for people to shout randomly at your kids then??

katvond Tue 07-Jun-11 19:41:15

I didn't realise that I thought it was a proper garden. Apologise OP

katvond Tue 07-Jun-11 19:42:49

I meant apologises OP
My typing is rotten tonight

activate Tue 07-Jun-11 19:47:48

When, and if, people have shouted at my children they do so because my children have crossed some boundary and I am generally grateful it has been reinforced by a stranger

the children know to apologise and stop doing whatever they are doing (well the 16 and 13 year old are a bit over that but the 10 and 7 year old still do)

they also know that different people have different rules from us

we sometimes talk afterwards about it - not always - sometimes we agree that what they did was not bad in our books, we may even laugh at the mad old crone but that doesn't mean that other people don't have different ideas of what's ok

so no I would never tell someone not to tell my children off but to tell me and I'll do it - because I live in the world and knw they have to fit in to it

bursting into tears at a cross word is not an appropriate reaction because not everybody cares about them - it's not appropriate within groups of children either and would probably lead to teasing

EricNorthmansMistress Tue 07-Jun-11 19:51:09

But you were with the kids at the time, and presumably dealt with it then. I don't understand why your DH had to go over again to bring it up. That's where you went wrong. They were U but you dealt with it strangely, he's not your dad!

MainlyMaynie Tue 07-Jun-11 20:08:41

Whatever the problems with the initial shouting and DH visiting (hard to tell who was right there), the neighbours' behaviour for the rest of the week was well out of order, surely? Unless the OP had kept up equally hostile behaviour of course. The polite British way to handle these things is surely to brush these things under the carpet and look away in shuffling embarrassment when you see each other again?

takethisonehereforastart Tue 07-Jun-11 22:00:37

So they own their lodge and you rented yours and the stepping stones were in the boundary between the two lodges?

They were rude and unreasonable to be shouting at your children when they could have just told them it was a private garden and they were a bit bonkers to be staring, waving and clapping through the rest of the week (although I would love to know how to wave sarcastically, I'd get a lot of use out of that grin)

But you know where they 'live' OP. They own that lodge, they won't be going anywhere else on their holidays. So rent the same lodge again next week, take your cat with you and let it poo on their lawn. Then let your children make a lot of noise at various times of the day and night and slow things down a lot at the buffet. Then invite your horrible in-laws and your DH's awful friends to visit you and ask them to bring some dogs that you can keep off the lead and allow to bark a lot. Let the horrible in-laws and awful friends drink a lot and behave obnoxiously. Park badly over their driveway. Do everything that anyone has ever complained about on here but do it better and louder.

Or just quietly fantasise about doing it because it will make you feel much better.

Thingumy Tue 07-Jun-11 22:05:15

Sod the cat going on holiday,I'd be tempted to shit on their garden myself.

They sound vile.

I hope the management looks into the complaints and seriously questions their presence on the site-surely there are rules and regulations in regards to behaviour to others.

microserf Tue 07-Jun-11 22:06:04

they sound a right pair of arseholes. i don't agree at all with any of the earlier posts about staying out of their "garden", these people enjoy confrontation and making trouble - just read the last para of the OP's post.

YANBU to be upset, but let it go, as I bet these two miserable old fuckers don't have much in the way of family or friends. their punishment is simply being themselves...

Imaponderer Tue 07-Jun-11 22:10:09

'don't you know that's a private garden? can't you see it's private? get off my garden!' etc, reducing my 7yo dd to tears

Do you think he should toughen up a bit?

Thingumy Tue 07-Jun-11 22:12:56

who needs to toughen up-the chalet owner?

CocktailQueen Tue 07-Jun-11 22:18:09

Imaponderer - my dd is a sensitive soul but being shouted at really horribly by some bonkers old woman when you don't think you've done anything wrong is enough to reduce most 7yos to tears... she was shocked. I don't esp. want her to toughen up.

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