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To dislike the culture of alcohol worship on MN?

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MumblingRagDoll Tue 07-Jun-11 17:45:48

I know it's all lighthearted....but I find it icky. Not people saying ..have a wine to cheer someone up so much...but all the "Just waiting till' wine o clock statements get to me.
I think it's because a close relative is an acoholic and I have seen the damage.

Alcohol is such a damaging thing...and I'm genuinely surprised (and yes...judgey) about how many parents seem to rely on it every night.

grovel Tue 07-Jun-11 17:50:20

11 minutes.

worraliberty Tue 07-Jun-11 17:50:23

How do you know which parents rely on it and which ones just enjoy it?

I enjoy a drink when the kids are in bed...I always have done, but I certainly don't rely on it.

strandedbear Tue 07-Jun-11 17:51:23

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

BornInAfrica Tue 07-Jun-11 17:51:43

So I suppose a fag in the other hand is out of the question too then?

meltedchocolate Tue 07-Jun-11 17:52:38

I understand because I too have "ishoos" with drinking. Mainly a nearlyXH who got very very aggressive with it and also before him and DS I used to drink a lot and didn't know when to stop. BUT I try to accept other people's casual wine drinking because I know not everyone has my problems with it, and nervous as it makes me I know not everyone becomes aggressive after only a glass or even at all.

HeadfirstForHalos Tue 07-Jun-11 17:53:14


Enjoying a glass of wine in the evening does not equate to NEEDING one.

meltedchocolate Tue 07-Jun-11 17:53:56

and yes YABalittlebitU

MumblingRagDoll Tue 07-Jun-11 17:54:10

See how defensive people get though?

CrapolaDeVille Tue 07-Jun-11 17:55:30

I think for some people a small glass of something puts an end to their day as parents and starts their evening.

JoySzasz Tue 07-Jun-11 17:57:19

I don't drink anymore (since about '97).

I was talking to my Step- Mum about it,she told me I should start building up some tolerance to it and gave me hints on how to do so confused

My Step-Mum and Dad drink every evening,without fail and at least a couple of glasses of wine.

Right now I am in the US, alcohol features a lot less in life where I live.

It shocks me how many FB pages (in the UK) are with people holding up drinks for the shot!

I agree that some people seem to be unable to unwind without an adult drinkie grin

I also lived with an alcoholic step-father,it was hell.

worraliberty Tue 07-Jun-11 17:57:33

OP who exactly relies on it every night then?

Drinking is a big part of our culture here in Britain...but again there is a big difference in liking it and relying upon it.

JamieAgain Tue 07-Jun-11 17:57:57

I do get where you are coming from. I too enjoy a small glass of wine in the evening, but also have experience of knowing people for whom this becomes a need , and for much more than a small glass. I think plenty of people are not honest with themselves about it.

BobbaFettBountyHunter Tue 07-Jun-11 17:58:16

I'm not a huge drinker but found two bottles of stella cider in my local store that jumped into my basket, so when the kids are in bed I'll have one. Chin chin.

worraliberty Tue 07-Jun-11 18:00:00

I'm sorry but just because some people get addicted to alcohol, doesn't make it wrong for others to eat it.

That's like saying there should be no unhealthy food because some people allow themselves to get fat on it.

peppapighastakenovermylife Tue 07-Jun-11 18:00:37

Alchohol is not a damaging thing.

Just as cakes are not bad for you.

It is the amount that you consume of them and why.

Looking forward to something doesnt make you dependent or the habit bad.

worraliberty Tue 07-Jun-11 18:00:39

Eat it?? I meant 'drink it' you can tell I've not had dinner yet blush

peppapighastakenovermylife Tue 07-Jun-11 18:01:04

X post worral! grin

MumblingRagDoll Tue 07-Jun-11 18:01:52

I just know so many people who think it reasonable to knock off a bottle of wine in the evening ...every evening and call it a glass.

I see what it does. It's stealthy.

AgentZigzag Tue 07-Jun-11 18:02:32

I'm not an alcoholic and I enjoy alcohol.

I use it for a purpose, I feel better after a drink, so I suppose you could say I rely on it to make me feel better for a couple of hours in the evening - every evening - and I don't feel guilty at all shock <<horror>>

I don't want to go a night without a glass ta, what other people get up to is their own affair.

SueTheSlut11 Tue 07-Jun-11 18:03:37


That Stella cider is lovely. I can't believe you only grabbed two bottles.

LadyBeagleEyes Tue 07-Jun-11 18:03:45

Well I love my wine in the evening. I don't need it, but I enjoy it.
And I'm with BornInAfrica about the fag as well smile, <outside of course>.

Brevity Tue 07-Jun-11 18:04:39

I understand what you mean- but people are very defensive about their alcohol use.
I know lots in real life who drink a bottle of wine a night (just for them) and appear to think this is safe and ignore the health consequences. Sometimes posters on here are encouraged to have that extra glass and just finish the bottle- I do find this odd.
However, each to their own, but it can be a fine line between social use and dependance for some.

MumblingRagDoll Tue 07-Jun-11 18:04:47

I find it weird though how people are allwed to sniff at smokers and not at drinkers. My Mum smokes but doesn't drink so she cops al the stuff about how bad it is (which it is obviously) but my brother and his wife are merry every are my PILS...they don't get any shit at all.

Alchol DOES do damage.

JoySzasz Tue 07-Jun-11 18:05:17

I think many people have forgotten what constitutes a need though.

Many people think they are just enjoying a glass or two,take that away and then see what happens perhaps?

Many are reliant and genuinely have no idea grin

I have to add,I don't mind what others do...I don't mind if they even throw in a fag(or several) grin

I think the op raised a good question,one I have pondered about too.

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