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AIBU or just jealous of friend's lifestyle?

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elseIlltellyourfather Mon 06-Jun-11 14:36:58

Very old friend, she is still into clubbing, drinking, all nighters etc. I was her buddy for all this for many years but since marriage and DCs am well off the scene! We catch up occasionally and all she wants to do is recount her latest outrageous anecdote(s) in great detail, at length. I find this tedious and irritating. Is it tedious and irritating when people do this, or am AIBU? I don't want to do any of this anymore, and could do if I did (no controlling Dh or anything!), just not part of my life now. I wouldn't dream of droning on about DCs thinking she'd be overly interested, I just want to chat. I find myself trying to show little interest so as not to encourage any further detail (she can spend our whole time together telling me these anecdotes!). So, AIBU?

expatinscotland Mon 06-Jun-11 14:38:19

I didn't even want to do this when I was single and childfree. I went to two clubs in my life, the last when I was 18, and was bored to tears and left.

lesley33 Mon 06-Jun-11 14:40:39

I guess the problem is if you used to enjoy her telling you these types of anecdotes, she may not have realized that you no longer do. So I don't think either of YABU, its just now things have changed for you, but not for her.

dittany Mon 06-Jun-11 14:41:01

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worraliberty Mon 06-Jun-11 14:42:29

Surely she must talk about other things too?

JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns Mon 06-Jun-11 14:44:53

So if her social life isn't a topic of conversation or your dcs what is there? Not saying yabu just sometimes things come to a natural end.

DoMeDon Mon 06-Jun-11 14:45:06

Depends if you would howl at the tales before and are just bored now as it's not your thang?

It is a bit dull if one person drones on about themselves the whole time - I had an old friend who did similar. Usually work or night out tales - I always waited for the punch line but she was a dull fucker bless her.

Carrotsandcelery Mon 06-Jun-11 14:49:15

Maybe you need to find a new common interest so you still have common ground to talk about. Is there something you could enjoy doing together? eg Shopping, an exercise class etc? Then you have common ground again.

Some friendships are worth keeping but need a bit of work at points of change, just like marriage sometimes. You have to keep evolving together. Other friendships just don't survive.

I hope this is a friendship which can evolve and you can find a new common interest.

swash Mon 06-Jun-11 15:06:09

A lot of people just drone on about their own stuff tbh - and it's v dull. I would see her a lot less often!

positivesteps Mon 06-Jun-11 15:06:43

You are obviously both just have different priorities. When you say your friend just drones on about her nights out, what do you actually talk about ? From what you have said it sounds like your friend does all the talking . Do you talk about any topics , if so what ?

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