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To put DD1 (who is 12) on the train on her own

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MrsSchadenfreude Sun 05-Jun-11 15:19:52

at Reading, to be collected by friend in Plymouth? Or will social services be called? I used to do this journey every year from age 10-14 on my own.

porcamiseria Sun 05-Jun-11 15:21:08

yanbu, 12 is old enough

KittySpencer Sun 05-Jun-11 15:23:48

Is it just one train or does she have to change? Will she have a mobile with her?

If yes to both then I'd say YANBU.

I put DS1 on a train for a 1.5 hour journey at just turned 11. His dad met him at the other end, and he had a phone with him in case of any emergency. He was absolutely fine, loved it in fact - had a couple of mags to read, an Ipod to listen to and some snacks - I think he enjoyed the peace away from me and DS2!

pozzled Sun 05-Jun-11 15:25:08

I'd say that is fine, as long as she has a mobile and knows not to panic if the train is delayed etc.

AgainWhen Sun 05-Jun-11 15:25:54

yanbu

Madlizzy Sun 05-Jun-11 15:26:29

For one train, then yes. If there are changes I'd be a little more hesitant.

MrsSchadenfreude Sun 05-Jun-11 15:27:57

One train, no changes, and yes to mobile. I thought it was fine (given that I used to do the journey) but one of my friends thought otherwise. So I thought I would ask you lot. grin

bigbuttons Sun 05-Jun-11 15:28:23

I put my 11 and 12 year olds on a train to bath, we live in Brighton.
When I was 10 I was put on a train nearly every holiday to stay with my lovely family tin Birmingham and I lived in London.
!2 is fine, doesn't stop you worrying though does it?

gillybean2 Sun 05-Jun-11 15:39:05

Make sure she knows not to stay in a carriage on her own if everyone gets off (ie move up a carriage or two) and see if you can find someone on the train when she gets on who is going to Plymouth as well.

I use to go to school every day on the train, involved 1 change and an hours journey. Mum asked someone (young girl early 20's on her way to work) to keep an eye on me just in case anything out of the ordinary happened.

Only issue might be if the train is seriously delayed for some reason or they have to get off but both are unlikely. Presumably you'll check there's no replacement bus service or engineering works planned.
I lost my ticket once after changing trains and had a panic. Had left it on the other train! Also left my bag on the luggae rack once. First and last time I attempted to get it on there grin

Also make her awae that the mobile signal can be a bit iffy on the train sometimes, especially when out in the countryside, so not to panic if she can't get a signal and to try again in a couple of minutes.

MrsSchadenfreude Sun 05-Jun-11 15:40:29

Thanks, Gillybean, that's sensible advice.

Toughasoldboots Sun 05-Jun-11 15:50:18

I have done this with my dd when 12, London to Bristol.
I always let the guard know and ask to keep an eye on her.

The guards have always been very kind and a couple of times she was moved to first class which I thought was above and beyond the call of duty.

It is good to let them do these things, dd felt so grown up.

SecretNutellaFix Sun 05-Jun-11 15:51:34

absolutely fine, especially if she's a confident sensible girl.

TidyDancer Sun 05-Jun-11 15:52:42

I think it's okay, just make sure you stay within range of the phone for the whole journey and that she rings you at the other end.

Not at all, mine has been doing it since her best friend moved away at age 10 (daylight journeys only). Never any problems.

Maryz Sun 05-Jun-11 15:55:19

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Grabaspoon Sun 05-Jun-11 15:57:39

I used to do it half termly to go to boarding school.

Make sure she has her ticket - my mum once forgot to give me mine!

Tell the guard that she's travelling alone - I often got put in first class for free so the guard could keep an eye out

Tell her what the stop before her's is so that she is prepared to get off at the next stop

unknownrebelbang Sun 05-Jun-11 15:59:22

If you're comfortable with the idea, and she is, yanbu.

FabbyChic Sun 05-Jun-11 16:04:05

I never get a signal when Im travelling on the train, could be she won't either, the only trains I find I can get a signal on are Virgin.

Be aware she wont always be able to text.

12 is fine to travel one journey on a train.

DilysPrice Sun 05-Jun-11 16:08:09

Make sure her mobile is fully charged (and forbid her to use up the battery playing Angry Birds or pack her charger somewhere accessible). Otherwise should be fine.

rubyrubyruby Sun 05-Jun-11 16:08:10

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

BulletWithAName Sun 05-Jun-11 16:19:34

I was using the Underground by myself when I was 12. It's fine.

giveitago Sun 05-Jun-11 16:21:30

YANBU if she's being met the other end and has a mobile phone in case of train issues.

ChessPiece Sun 05-Jun-11 16:29:33

Give her some advice about sitting next to family groups or women, and how to handle herself if a man starts getting "friendly" with her. IMO I would tell her to avoid getting into conversation with any man (sadly). Just don't go there. Be polite but move carriages if necessary.

I've had two bad experiences with this problem on trains - once as a 19 year old and once in my twenties - wouldn't have liked to have coped with it as a youngster. Even when it seems innocently and friendly, it can be quite intimidating and when it develops into somthing more sinister, as it did for me (guy reading a porno mag and touching my thigh), it's frightening.

You need to prepare your dd to suss the warning signs and take avoiding action, without worrying that she's being impolite.

nailak Sun 05-Jun-11 16:54:49

lol, are you serious? at 11 i was ettin bus and train to school myslef every day, and comin home and makin my own tea!! lol it would take an hour....

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