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to wear my wedding dress as a guest at a friends wedding?

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DaisyHayes Sun 05-Jun-11 13:35:47

I don't want to look like a lunatic Miss Havisham type, but I haven't the time or money to buy a new dress for an upcoming wedding, so was thinking maybe I could just wear the dress I wore to mine.

My wedding dress was not white. It's dark gold, and in fact an evening dress, not a bridal dress.

However. The said friend did come to my wedding and therefore might recognise it (especially as my FB profile picture is a wedding one). If she does will she think me a crazy person or be offended?

Yay or nay?

cunexttuesonline Sun 05-Jun-11 13:37:15

YANBU, as long as it's not a white dress I think it's fine.

BalloonSlayer Sun 05-Jun-11 13:38:01

It wouldn't bother me, but why don't you ask her if you are worried?

potoftea Sun 05-Jun-11 13:38:44

If it is a dress that you would look at in a shop and think it suitable for the friend's wedding, then yes, fine to wear it.

The fact that you wore it previously as a bride isn't an issue I think.

CMOTdibbler Sun 05-Jun-11 13:39:07

Is it an evening dress sort of wedding then ? I don't think it would be appropriate if it is long and might be seen as a bm type dress, but if not, and bride is only one who was at your wedding, then it would be ok

WhoAteMySnickers Sun 05-Jun-11 13:39:27

I'd say yay. IMO, at a wedding, as long as you're not wearing white/ivory with a veil, or dressed head to toe in black whispering "it should have been me" then anything else goes.

Why don't you ask your friend and see what she thinks?

blackeyedsusan Sun 05-Jun-11 13:39:28

let her know before hand. shouldn't be a problem as it is not white...

DaisyHayes Sun 05-Jun-11 13:39:50

I'd ask but the wedding is tomorrow and I suspect she's got bigger things to worry about right now.

worraliberty Sun 05-Jun-11 13:40:01

I'd think you were a bit mad if I were your friend grin

But only you know her and only you know what the dress looks like. So why not have a word with her first?

helenthemadex Sun 05-Jun-11 13:41:01

I had visions of a big white meringue style dress grin

I dont see why it would be a problem, but if you are worried then ring the bride up and ask her

ps maybe dont take your bouquet though grin

worraliberty Sun 05-Jun-11 13:41:09

Oh X posts! sad

Why such a last minute rush?

Mind you, when I read the title I wondered if it was going to be a Princess Di type dress...that would have been amusing blush

katvond Sun 05-Jun-11 13:41:18

Go for it I am sure she won't care what your wearing if I'm honest she will be more concerned how shes going to look

DaisyHayes Sun 05-Jun-11 13:46:12

Ok. Hmmm. It might be a bit wierd as it's full length. Wrong for a reg office?

It's last minute because I am useless and kept thinking that I'd open my wardrobe on the day and discover the perfect dress which I had previously bought and forgotten all about. This doesn't appear to have happened (though I did find an old maternity dress - maybe I could wear that instead?)

FaffTastic Sun 05-Jun-11 13:50:05

Sounds a bit OTT if it's in a Registry Office tbh.

BalloonSlayer Sun 05-Jun-11 13:50:20

Is it this one?

Oh g'wan. She won't mind at all.

Yekke Sun 05-Jun-11 13:51:44

I would find it odd that someone wore a long dress to a registry office wedding and stranger still that the dress was very obviously the one they got married in. It almost says that you're competing with the bride or wish that it was you in her place. I'm sure that neither is the case but personally I'd be concerned about giving that impression.

DaisyHayes Sun 05-Jun-11 13:51:55

Yes, that's the one BallonSlayer. It's fine isn't it? Very subtle and doesn't scream 'wedding'.

DaisyHayes Sun 05-Jun-11 13:53:06

Oh feck it. The last fecking thing I feel like doing now is going to Oxford Street. I don't even like weddings. <sulks>

worraliberty Sun 05-Jun-11 13:53:23

and kept thinking that I'd open my wardrobe on the day and discover the perfect dress which I had previously bought and forgotten all about

OMG I thought it was just me who did that! grin

katvond Sun 05-Jun-11 13:54:52

Is that the dress OP that ballon showed? If so very OTT for a registry office
You may upstage the bride in that

cerealqueen Sun 05-Jun-11 13:58:52

If you resemble 'a bride' in any way, if the dress is likely to detract from THE bride because of that, YABU.

PoweredbyTea Sun 05-Jun-11 13:59:54

I'd say fine as long as you aren't going to accessorise it with a veil and a bouquet wink and as long as not too many of the guests are the same people who were at yours.

cerealqueen Sun 05-Jun-11 13:59:57

Just seen the dress, if that is the one, YADBU.

DaisyHayes Sun 05-Jun-11 14:02:33

Nooooooooo, ceralqueen, that's not the dress. it's foul, I wouldn't wear it as a bride let alone a guest.

It's a very simple full length halter neck sheath dress.

happygilmore Sun 05-Jun-11 14:03:56

I think Balloon was having a joke..

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