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to be devastated my DP has admitted he likes 'small, pointly boobs'?

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lightsandshapes Sat 04-Jun-11 14:16:36

I have large 34 GG breasts (and getting bigger - 5 months pregnant).

I feel unappreciated and almost feel like having an affair with someone who appreciates my body. I have tried to set up a 'date' night too, but so far he has refused everything I've suggested. Just feel like giving up on this relationship

lightsandshapes Sat 04-Jun-11 14:18:56

oops, i mean 'pointy' boobs

Yukana Sat 04-Jun-11 14:19:57

Oh honey. sad How long have you been together? That sort of comment is not what you need, especially while pregnant.

Did he say it jokingly or seriously, in other words do you think he realised it would hurt your feelings? Not that it makes saying it any better, of course.

You should feel appreciated and loved whilst in a relationship. I really hope things get better for you and big MN hugs.

Salmotrutta Sat 04-Jun-11 14:22:29

Oh dear - sounds like this is about more than the size of your boobs?

Do you think sitting him down and ahving a heart-to-heart will help? Or would he refuse to do that too?

MittzyTheMinx Sat 04-Jun-11 14:23:28

Oh lovely, that's really crap and a difficult one to come round from.

It sounds a bit as if it is the tip of the ice burg from your OP, b ut can you explain how much he has hurt your feelings and see if he understands?

(( )) x

smartyparts Sat 04-Jun-11 14:23:37

Gosh - how to make you feel crap about yourself!

Tell him you prefer big tree-trunk penises, assuming he doesn't have one!

TheMostBeautifulPoster Sat 04-Jun-11 14:25:49

Lol. Am on phone. Think i just reported the tree trunk post in error!!

Was going to say ANY comment on appearance is doubly tough when pg

smartyparts Sat 04-Jun-11 14:27:15

Eek - am I going to get banned now? grin

lightsandshapes Sat 04-Jun-11 14:54:43

Yukana we've been together for 5 years. It sort of just slipped out. Feel so upset by everything. He's being a crap DP at the moment

CliffTumble Sat 04-Jun-11 14:56:57

Has he been watching porn?

lightsandshapes Sat 04-Jun-11 14:58:11

cliff - no he never watches porn.

CliffTumble Sat 04-Jun-11 15:00:17

I'd go with the tree trunk comment then. We can't all have what we want...

Sn0wflake Sat 04-Jun-11 15:00:20


worraliberty Sat 04-Jun-11 15:06:53

What a naff thing to say to you when you're pregnant shock

FWIW it obviously doesn't matter to him or he wouldn't have chosen you in the first place, but even so he needs a lesson in bloody tact and manners.

Crevix Sat 04-Jun-11 15:12:04

I prefer small pointy boobs. 2 children, 2 years of feeding and 6 stone bigger than I should be means they will never be small and pointy again.

I also prefer large sturdy Penises. I could go out and get a large sturdy penis if I had the energy but I haven't. It is an option though.

worraliberty Sat 04-Jun-11 15:14:43

I have small pointy boobs

Trouble is, at age 42 they're pointing downwards hmm

EmmaBemma Sat 04-Jun-11 15:15:48

I can only imagine how this conversation would have come about, but did your husband say he prefers small pointy bosoms to other boobular shapes and sizes, including yours? Or that he only likes small pointy bosoms? Or is it more that he is a fan of all the boobs, including those at either end of the spectrum.

EmmaBemma Sat 04-Jun-11 15:16:59

sorry, just realised you said DP not DH. My mistake slaps wrist.

BumWiper Sat 04-Jun-11 15:49:33

I think this comment has more to it than your ample boobs.Is this your first child?Maybe he is panicing about his impending fatherhood and projecting it by trying to make you feel bad about yourself.

You are more than breasts.

atswimtwolengths Sat 04-Jun-11 15:53:18

Yes, she is more than breasts, but he is just a prick.

BumWiper Sat 04-Jun-11 16:02:04

A little prick by the sounds of it grin

TheOriginalFAB Sat 04-Jun-11 16:13:12

He is a dick head for saying it but you are a bit silly for thinking you feel like having an affair to show him. Tell him you were hurt by what he said and how would he feel if you said you preferred X penises?

kiki22 Sat 04-Jun-11 16:19:39

i'd say fine if you don't like them access denied smile or tell him that you'll keep them for your own enjoyment since he doesn't seem to like them smile

shirleyshortcut Sat 04-Jun-11 16:35:23

so you are up the duff by this man, yet you feel like having an affair "to show him"

very mature

IloveJudgeJudy Sat 04-Jun-11 16:41:16

I know how you're feeling. I once asked my DH, stupidly, did he prefer this or that, that being what I am. He said, this. I was devestated. As soon as I had asked the question I wished I hadn't, but he answered very quickly. He did make it up to me by being very nice for ages.

Did you ask your DP, or did he tell you? If he told you, then that's just nasty. I would sit down with him without any distractions, perhaps even in the car going somewhere as that seems to help sometimes, and ask him why he said that and how it made you feel. His answer may help you to go forward.

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