To really not understand this woman?

[Sqee]

Here

I think the is so much more common than people think. It just seems like she loves her children for what they give her emotionally. I've always thought a mothers love should be unconditional. She is kidding herself if she honestly thinks there is no emotional scarring.

Very :(

[blackeyedsusan]

poor child.

i suspect there is more to it...

[NineteenForever]

Felt similarly crap as a mother when my DS was small. Felt I'd failed in all sorts of areas. He was diagnosed with Autism at 3 and a half and i honestly rejected him, for a while. You can't judge till you've been there- some people have it instinctively with any of their children- I had to be led back some of the way. Like the woman concerned, my second experience was entirely different but DD is neurologically typical.

[takethisonehereforastart]

I can't understand her either. But I'm in the lucky position of not being in her place, struggling to cope with a child I can't understand or help.

I'd hope that if my LO had the issues her daughter has that I would cope better and respond differently, but I'm very glad we haven't had to find out.

I do agree with you OP that she may be kidding herself if she feels there are no lasting effects on her daughter. But I hope that now the family have a diagnosis and they are working to help her they continue to work with the family therapist and help Sophie work through any issues this rejection by her mother has caused.

[opalinski]

Doesnt surprise me, my mother has never liked me. Even as a child.

[itisnearlysummer]

"I love you because I'm you're mother. I can't help that. It's nature. But I don't like you. You've never been a likeable child"

I was quite young the first time I heard that. I'm now in my mid 30s and it's never changed.

It really bothers me. Really. It's affected my whole life. I don't really have any friends because I've always accepted that i'm just not 'likeable'.

I suggested that we went to see a family therapist to resolve it, but my mum isn't actually interested.

I suspect it isn't actually that unusual.