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To think that dyeing/bleaching a small child's hair...

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revolutionscoop · 03/06/2011 18:23

is more than just a tad icky? Apparently Gwen Stefani does this with her two young sons. I assume it doesn't actually harm them in any way, but it just seems wrong to me. Am I being unreasonably judgemental?

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strandedbear · 03/06/2011 18:25

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smileANDwave2000 · 03/06/2011 18:32

YANBU if you dye your hair according to my Hairdresser its what stripped mine of its natural colour in the end and all its natural oils also a child wouldnt ASK to have their hair dyed so its rather like giving a small child a tattoo or errings (not as bad i grant you) a small child or baby cant exactly stop you also cant be nice as some hair colours sting a bit too much for a baby/toddler...

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smileANDwave2000 · 03/06/2011 18:35

should add arnt mums supposed to love their child unconditionally and all toddlers/babies look beautiful to their mum .... apparently not heh Gwen Shock

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TeddyMcardle · 03/06/2011 18:35

YANBU, I always get a bit judgey about small children with bleached hair Blush

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soverylucky · 03/06/2011 18:38

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scarlettsmummy2 · 03/06/2011 18:39

I think it is awful. I bleach my hair and I know for a fact it isn't good for it. Why you would do that to a four year old is baffling!

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emsyj · 03/06/2011 18:42

I think it's a bit sad to be so concerned with a young child's appearance. I don't like the idea of it.

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CrapolaDeVille · 03/06/2011 18:44

Yuck and they look naff.

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lubberlich · 03/06/2011 18:45

My DS won't even let me wash his hair let alone dye it.
How do you persuade a 4 year old to sit still with bleach on his head?

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ScarlettIsWalking · 03/06/2011 18:45

Absolutely ridiculous.

If Katie Cruise did that to Suri she would be hung drawn and quartered.

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DooinMeCleanin · 03/06/2011 18:45

My 7 yo asked my sister if she would dye her fringe lilac. I let her since it was half term. It's not a regular thing and won't cause any lasting damage. Bigger battles and all that.

It's utterly ridiculous to suggest its akin to tattooing a child.

Yabu imo.

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revolutionscoop · 03/06/2011 18:51

I suppose part of the issue for me, with regards to Gwen Stef in particular, is the fact that she seems to be making her child(ren) into little sartorial extensions of her own image. Obviously a lot of people do this to a point, dressing their children in trendy gear etc, but to actually alter a child's physical appearance to that end makes me uncomfortable.

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pigletmania · 03/06/2011 18:56

YANBU, there is no need to use abrasive and harsh chemicals on a young child's hair.

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emsyj · 03/06/2011 18:56

Dying a fringe lilac on a whim at the request of the child as a half term one-off is IMO harmless and very different from a mother routinely seeking to alter her child's appearance by bleaching his or her hair.

Have no knowledge of Gwen Stefani etc so this is a general comment.

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sue52 · 03/06/2011 18:56

There were many things my children were into at that age. Trips to the hairdresser didn't figure on their list at all. I wish people would stop using their children as fashion accessories.

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cerealqueen · 03/06/2011 18:56

YANBU - a child is not a Girls World hairdressing doll.

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JoySzasz · 03/06/2011 18:57

It is very obvious that the family are obsessed interested in fashion and fads.

Gwen's hair is totally processed,it probably seems quite normal to her to make her boys extensions of herself.

Totally crazy IMO.

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LordOfTheFlies · 03/06/2011 18:57

YANBU, it strikes me that its more about what the parent wants.
Aside from children growing up and being sexualised and the potential harm it could do/not do.
If parents want to dye their own hair, let them get on with it. I doubt many small kids would ask "Oh mummy can I have chavvy looking streaks in my hair a bit of highlighting.
Disclaimer-I live in Essex.Chavtastic centre of the world.(I can honestly saw I never watched TOWIE but the previwes were enough)

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troisgarcons · 03/06/2011 19:00

I'm afraid it's par for the course to see little boys with bleached spikes and ear rings. By little boys I mean 6,7,8yo's.

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buxomwenchonapony · 03/06/2011 19:13

I find it a bit uncomfortable when children are used as accessories. I started a thread earlier about nail polish on children, and I guess there is a fine line. IMO hair bleaching is not fun, it is about the parent being concerned with their preschooler looking 'cool' in a grown-up, fashionable sense.

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jeckadeck · 03/06/2011 19:16

there's a big difference between permanent dye (or bleach) and non or semi-permanent, imho. I wouldn't have a problem with my little girl messing around with colour if it was going to wash or fade out but would balk at bleach below a certain age. I certainly wouldn't impose bleach on a child. Not exactly in the same category as a tattoo but it does make my stomach turn a bit.

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drivemecrazy63 · 03/06/2011 19:19

a 7 year old is different doinme at 7 you can actually ask for one thing were talking bleeching not a sachet of wash in wash out and for a toddler of 4 its awful why wouldnt you love the way your child looks naturally its plain bad parenting IMO plus i agree with lordoftheflies. my ds when 9 asked for one earring and because he asked and kept asking we gathered in the end he REALLY wanted it it wasnt a flight of fancy so im not against all these things just doing it to a child without their consent

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