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To think that you don't just drop your child off at hospital then FUCK OFF OUT!

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KnowItAllMummy Wed 01-Jun-11 19:40:16

Exactly what title says!

I found out someone I know's son got poorly and got taken into hospital, she got him there in the early hours of the morning and then got the earliest train to go out to a festival! W.T.F??

Am I being unreasonable to think she is a bad mum?

KnowItAllMummy Wed 01-Jun-11 19:41:14

The DC isn't even 2 yet! And father was abroad on holiday, so DC was left alone sad

Loonytoonie Wed 01-Jun-11 19:41:56

Wrong wrong wrong on all counts. Poor mite sad

pigletmania Wed 01-Jun-11 19:42:29

OMG that is awful sad YANBU at all. Get your priorities right woman.

Happymm Wed 01-Jun-11 19:42:44


CrapBag Wed 01-Jun-11 19:42:52

Surely that can't be right.

What kind of parent would do that!

BluddyMoFo Wed 01-Jun-11 19:43:36

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

KnowItAllMummy Wed 01-Jun-11 19:44:38

Poor DC has been in and out of hospital all his life, and she goes out as if she has no responsibilities, clubbing etc.

I was gobsmacked when I found out she still went!

KnowItAllMummy Wed 01-Jun-11 19:45:49

Is was a car thing called modified nationals, some thing to do with done up cars, she camped for the whole weekend hmm

pozzled Wed 01-Jun-11 19:48:19

There must be more to the story though- surely? If the mum was already planning on going to the festival, who was supposed to be looking after the DS? Or was she going to take him with her?

gapants Wed 01-Jun-11 19:48:42

wow, sounds like she used the hospital as some free childcare.

However, is that even legal/pemitted. I mean, surely there would have been a quick call to the on call SS to tell the woman to stay put. Don't they have to stay to sing congenital documents, consult with on treatment?

I am not saying you are telling fibs...but really really?

PregolaLola Wed 01-Jun-11 19:49:34

strange thing to do, poor littlen.... but she did so not much to say really
hopefully there was a grandparent or relative there, not that it makes her own absence any less pants

gapants Wed 01-Jun-11 19:50:04

blush sign documents to permit consent for treatment

sharbie Wed 01-Jun-11 19:50:04

no it is allowed.
saw this all the time (and have posted on here about it too) when dd was in hospital.
its very very sad.

TheRainInSpain Wed 01-Jun-11 19:50:21



PregolaLola Wed 01-Jun-11 19:50:54

gapants i didnt think they would allow it either to be honest, but hey ho....

sharbie Wed 01-Jun-11 19:51:43

when we were in with dd - it happened with babies

mousesma Wed 01-Jun-11 19:53:01

Actually you'd be surprised how often hospitals are used as free childcare. My old manager said in her nursing days it wasn't at all uncommon to find children left at the end of surgerys on a friday night only to have the parents waltz in saturday or sunday to pick them up.
They know hospitals have a duty of care and have to either find them a bed or get SS to look after them.

KnowItAllMummy Wed 01-Jun-11 19:54:11

Her DM was supposed to have her DC, she had even taught her to use the dialysis machine especially (her and XP were the only people shown at the hospital) but afaik, her mum doesn't drive.

She has done this several times, and when he was in for long periods I used to think it was because she needed the break, but to literally drop him off then go? I couldn't believe my ears.

It's not even like it was something minor wrong with him, they thought he had an infection in the line that goes directly into his heart!

I don't really know any more details though I'm afraid, I just wanted to see if I was being unreasonable and to share my disgust!

PregolaLola Wed 01-Jun-11 19:54:26

sharbie ,must of been hard to watch i guess... two is still a baby aswell though really, some people hey ?!

SpeedyGonzalez Wed 01-Jun-11 19:55:52

Unbelievable. If my kids were in hospital I'd be one of those annoying parents who insist on taking up residence on a bedside chair until their departure. I'd be very polite about it, but nothing would make me leave the hospital.

Poor child, what a horrible, selfish thing to do.

rainbowinthesky Wed 01-Jun-11 19:57:09

Easy to judge but...

This may be her only chance of respite from what sounds like a 24 hours full on job with an ill child. Maybe she knew that if she doesnt take her breaks when she can get them then she simply wont be able to function and child goes into care.

Unless you walk in her shoes......

sharbie Wed 01-Jun-11 19:57:40

yes it was.i really couldn't think what they would rather be doing tbh.
obviously the nurses couldn't take time out to look after them all apart from essentials (feeding obs)so there were babies in cots in seperate rooms all alone.

KnowItAllMummy Wed 01-Jun-11 19:57:56

I would be the same speedy.

She has been awful since her XP left her though, always out, going off with any men hmm

BimboNo5 Wed 01-Jun-11 19:58:37

I work in a childrens hospital and if childrens parents dont visit/spend enough time with the child it is refered on to the hospital social work team as they are not deemed to be meeting the emotional needs of the child.

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