to check if SC attended his exams

[WkdSM]

My SC lived with us for 3 years and has now moved back with mother and doing AS levels.
Got 3 U's and a D in January exams - wanted to leave school and get a job but mother has said she will throw him out of house if he does this. Level of maintenance we pay may have something to do with this.
Meant to be doing AS level exams now but a note on Facebook said SC had not turned up for an exam (now removed).
SC not 'talking' to us at the moment because we refused to give him money for car insurance as SC has not even taken a lesson yet but wanted to buy a car. Unlikely to admit to missing exams in any case.
Can we contact school and ask if he has attended exams - I have parental responsibility for him. Please do not say 'talk to his mother' - last time we spoke to her she threatened to physically attack me.

[bubblecoral]

There's no harm in trying. They can only say no, but if the school knows you had PR and were a good influence on him, they would probably only refuse to tell you if the Mother has told them not to.

The question is, what will you do if you find out he hasn't attended?

[WkdSM]

This is a different school to the one SC attended when with us so we have had no real contact with them. They operate as a separate A level college.

We are not sure what to do - but would like some advance warning if the whole situation is about to blow up. SC and mother both have explosive tempers when they get going and she has already thrown SC out several times when younger.

They live over 3 hours drive away so not really a case of being able to pop round to pick up the pieces.

[MonstaMunch]

if he is old enough to want car insurance, he is old enough to manage his life

stop helicoptering

[WkdSM]

My wrist is duly slapped.
Pity I can't use the helicopter when it all blows up and we are expected to pick up the pieces once again. Would make the travel a lot quicker.

[Hassled]

I invigilate exams - if someone is absent then it's spotted straight away and someone from the exams office phones home in an attempt to track the child down. What number would they have as "home"?

[yoshiLunk]

Assuming he is under 18 they do have a duty to give you information such as newsletters, reports, grades etc and if I recall correctly this includes non-attendance so I'm sure this 'counts'.

I would approach the school in a "this is delicate situation, - we are not asking for any details we are not entitled to" approach. It doesn't matter if you have never spoken to them before - you have PR - that's it, there doesn't need to be a 'disclosure agreement' set in place before they communicate with you although they may of course want confirmation of your PR.

good luck, - I completely understand you wanting a 'heads up' in this situation.